6 Thoughts You Have During Big / Little Week

6 Thoughts You Have During Big / Little Week

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Greek life is a big part of most college experiences, and the best event after Bid Day is most definitely Big and Little week. Basically, older sorority or fraternity members are paired with a new member, the Little, to help them transition into Greek life and the respective organization. I am not sure how this week works for fraternities, but for us sorority women, I like to summarize it as, "I've been to Michaels and Target more times in one week than I have in my entire life." And, of course, each sorority is unique and may do Big / Little week differently, but here are some thoughts we all can definitely relate to.

Realizing you have a Little.

When you first find out who your Little is, and you love her so much already! You cannot wait to shower your Little with gifts, and (attempt) to craft the many canvases on that Pinterest board you started when you got a bid. Of course, having a Little means being responsible for her and teaching her all the things about your organization all while making sure she feels right at home. It's kind of like you're given a person to be "your person," and it's amazing.

Seeing your Little on campus and trying to be normal.

In my chapter, I am currently the assistant New Member Educator, so I see all the potential Littles all the time! So, seeing my Little around campus was totally going to be easy, right?

Actually, trying to keep a poker face when I saw her around campus was hard, but I did not want to spoil the surprise, so I tried my best. And, I guess it worked! She told me she didn't know until Family Night of baskets, which is the night before reveal, so it was perfect!

Procrastinating crafting at all costs.

Alright, so crafting is definitely not my strong suit, and I can be really indecisive, so crafting was just going to wait until the week of Big and Little. I spent late nights with my sister Emily going through Pinterest and painting canvases, pin boxes and other fun things we had picked up at Michaels. We watched "Gilmore Girls" while we crafted though, so it was a win-win situation.

As someone who is not crafty at all, painting canvases was actually not as hard as I thought. The hardest part was choosing a quote or design to put on the canvas. Of course, there were days when I went to Michaels to pick up more canvases or random things from Target, but it was actually so much fun because I knew my Little was going to be so happy when she opened her basket!

Organizing the basket.

On the first night, I had no idea what I was doing and the pictures on Pinterest make it look so flawless and easy. As someone who is extremely organized, everything had to have its own place. I think I rearranged my Little's basket three times before she opened it on the first night because I was so nervous she would miss something or she wouldn't like it.

In retrospect, I was worrying about nothing, but when in doubt, ask your Big for help!

Realizing you have to make shirts for the reveal.

Procrastination is not usually something that happens a lot, but I was so overwhelmed with the basket part of Big / Little, I totally forgot about T-shirts. The design was actually the hardest part (shocker), but with so many options and ideas on Pinterest and various Greek apparel websites, how do you choose? And, sometimes a whole family tree will want to coordinate shirts, but then that just adds to the mess because everyone is different and has varying tastes!

Anyways, I sat down one day and decided what design I wanted and kept it simple. Then, my family and I went to this amazing T-shirt place (the Big Frog) and they made beautiful shirts in just two days! So, I guess my procrastination was a result of wanting the shirt to be perfect and thankfully, it all worked out!

Realizing that the reveal is tomorrow!

OK, so on top of all the other emotions Big/Little brings, I did not truly grasp reveal was happening until I was inside my Little's box and heard her scream out of excitement! On the last night of baskets, I had been sitting next to my friend Madeline because our Littles always sat close together. When she said, "Maren. Reveal is tomorrow!" I completely freaked out, and then we both freaked out.

It was hilarious and amazing at the same time. My Big and I went to Home Depot, spray painted my box and I glued sea shells on all the night before. And then I got inside and she ran to me and it was amazing.

Big and Little week was a fun, emotional and an all around bonding experience for my sisters and I, and I hope you can relate to some of these thoughts too! I am so lucky to have such an amazing Little, and for potential Bigs, you're going to be amazing!

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Things I Miss Now That I'm Home From College Again

There are so many reasons to be glad that the school year is over, but if you've done it right... there are a lot of reasons to miss it too.


So, school is over now and I've come home. As expected I was so relieved at first. No more showering with flip-flops, no more listening to screaming girls running up and down the hall, and a space that is mine and mine alone. But after a week or so of being back, there are a few things I've already started to miss.

I know that not every single person has the ideal roommate but I got really lucky with mine. Coming home I was excited to have my own space, but now when I'm doing my midnight scrolling, I'm realizing that I miss being able to talk to her about the funny things I see in that very moment. Tagging, DMing, and texting her doesn't feel the same as a long night of giggles spent together.

Also, while seeing old friends when you get home is amazing, and there is always a lot to catch up on, you do start to miss your other friends too. Being in college means that your friends are going through similar things as you are all the time. You have tests together, clubs together, and sometimes you spend way too much time procrastinating together. The bond you begin to form is one you definitely begin to miss - especially when you guys don't live close off of campus.

Coming home also means you don't have a set schedule or at least not immediately. You may come back to a previous job and that puts something on your calendar, but the free time you still have during the week can be a little too much. I know I've spent way too much time obsessing over the Tati/James drama than I ever would have at school. The routine I had at school kept me busy and entertained, and I'm honestly missing it a lot right now.

There are a lot of other things to miss too - even things you thought you wouldn't. You miss the classes, the teachers, and sometimes the food. I know I miss the environment. It isn't a perfect one, but it's full of people just trying to find their way. We are all working through the roller coaster of life and we are all stuck on one beautiful campus together while we figure it all out. I miss meeting new people at the bus stops or running into old classmates and catching up.

I guess the bonus for me is that I just finished sophomore year which means I have more time to spend at school. Come senior year, I guess I'll have to learn quickly how to deal without the things I miss - and also create a schedule so I can travel to see all of my friends, but those are all problems for future me.

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