5 Ways To Love Your Tired Self This Valentine's Day

5 Ways To Love Your Tired Self This Valentine's Day

And why it's okay to do so.

The idea of ‘loving yourself’ is one that is sweeping our culture. We're told the answer to depression, anxiety, loneliness, and more is to simply love yourself. It’s implied that a higher self-esteem is the answer to all our troubles. While I don't agree with that thinking entirely, I do think we're called to love ourselves and pay attention to our needs. In Mark 12:31, Jesus tells us to, "Love your neighbor as yourself," which means we must love ourselves, too. Loving yourself doesn’t have to mean you have an inflated ego. It can simply mean paying attention to what your body, heart, and soul need and allowing yourself to answer to those needs.

Valentine’s Day, as any other holiday, can feel lonely and isolating. Or, if you do have a special someone, the day can leave you riddled with guilt over all you can’t do with them. Even this lighthearted and fun day can bring painful reminders of the reality of chronic illness.

It's easy to get consumed with how hard this battle is and all the ways you hate your body. So, in the spirit of Valentine's Day, set those things aside and take time to love your body and care for yourself for a little while. Here are five ways to get you started.

1. Save Up Your Energy And Take A Long Soak In The Bathtub.

Add a little Epsom Salt or some essential oils if you’re able to, and relax. It may be tiring, but hopefully, the feeling of being clean, calmer, and refreshed will be worth it.

2. Watch Your Favorite Movie.

Maybe the idea of watching Netflix doesn’t seem all that special to you, but it can be fun to watch an old classic or one you love and haven’t visited for a while. Invite some friends to a pajama party and dive into someone else’s story for a little while. Bonus points if it’s funny. They say laughter is the best medicine.

3. Treat Yourself To Something Tasty.

Valentine’s Day often includes chocolate and other candies that many of us can’t eat, but that doesn’t mean we can’t have anything sweet at all! There are so many options these days to buy or make. Find something that looks good and either buy it or ask someone to help you make it, and then enjoy your special treat. You can check out my Sweet Treats Pinterest Board for ideas if you'd like.

4. Forgive Your Body.

It’s easy to be angry, I know, but your body can’t help what’s happening to it. Take time to release the frustration and then focus on what you do love about your body. Maybe your immune system sucks, but you have fabulous hair. Or maybe your joints ache, but your eyes sparkle! Don’t discredit the little things about you that are lovely.

5. Continue To Let Go Of Negativity.

It’s more than okay to be upset about being sick and to grieve the season you’re in. But don’t stay in that place forever. Find things you’re thankful for and that bring you joy. Write down a list of those things and reflect on the good parts of where you are in life.

I know you may be struggling. Illness of any form is hard. But you are stronger than you know and so worth loving. Let yourself believe that this week. Happy Valentine's Day!

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Dreading This Day All About Love

Valentines day blues


I have never enjoyed Valentine's Day.

Even if when I was in a relationship it was just an awkward day of "hey I love you, give me gifts and lets make out." But this year, I am just not feeling this thing at all. Since the relationship ended last June I have just been dreading the time when February came, because you know that on the 14th you are going to see all these love post and all us singles are like "welp this is just not my day.", and honestly you feel defeated. I personally asked other singles friends (like the three I have) if they wanted to come and watch Netflix with me and dread the day, but sadly they either had school or work. So here is my plan of getting though this day of love:


Yes Netflix how else am I supposed to get through this day? Usually I have Greys Anatomy playing all the time but that has love in it, and I am not in the mood for that. My plan is to watch all the crime shows I can because watching TV crime series or documentary about serial killers just seems perfect for the 14th.



Yes sleeping. I don't have anywhere I need to be why not catch up on some zzz's


Yes I am going to eat my feelings with chocolate because why not? if I could I would get a giant slice of cake and live off that on the 14th but sadly I am stuck with the normal Heresy's chocolate and Reeses which will do their job.


me :)

This is my wonderful cat Kimber and she will be my partner in crime on the 14th. She will sleep, snuggle, cuddle, all day with me because I need that moral support of my fluffy cat.



If I am able to fit reading a book into my schedule of everything listed above then reading will go into that open spot. I always loved reading but with school it is hard to find the time to read for enjoyment. so this day will be the perfect day.

This is my plan for the 14th of February and hopefully this will help me get though this dreadful day. And if you are also single try this out :)

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