There are tons of people who don't really understand what depression is really like. They think they are helping, but they aren't. We don't want to be rude about it and tell them to stop. Sometimes it gets too frustrating when they try to get inside of our heads when they have no idea.
1. It's not that easy to just "get out of the house"
Trust me if I wanted out of the house I would get out of the house, but my mind is telling me not to. Telling me I am just going to be the party pooper, everyone will be annoyed with me, or I just simply won't have fun. Your friends push you do it, your boyfriend/girlfriend, and your parents. But mom, it's not fun being forced to have fun, when I DONT want to have fun.
2. "Feel better" They say. Like its a magic spell.
Hopefully by now people have learned that you can't just tell someone who is depressed to feel better. Because they won't. It actually might make them feel worse. Almost like a burden.. and make them (me) feel more and more helpless. You need to try a different approach. Something other than "feel better". Maybe try talking about their problems with them to ACTUALLY make them feel better. Don't tell them to do something, help them stand on their feet and do it.
3. I can't go to any therapist I choose and be cured.
For one, it takes a lot of guts to open up to anyone let alone a complete stranger. It's going to take some time and you have to bear with me because it's going to be a process to even find one that I like and/or helps me.
4. "Why aren't you saying anything?"
I promise it is normal for me to stop talking without something being wrong. Sometimes my depression gets the best of me and I go mute, but you asking over and over what's wrong will only make matters worse. So please let me be in silence and accept it.
5. Irritability.
This is a big one. Depression is known for giving people the symptom of mood swings. Us depressed people truly are sorry for those times when you don't do anything and we lash out. That is just our mind being tired. Our mind never sleeps it's always running like a gerbil on a wheel. We are tired mentally. We don't mean it. Give us some space.
If people could just work on trying to not be so in your face when you're sad, I think it would make things better. Less mood swings and more smiles. Sometimes we just need and want to be alone and I think everyone should respect our space.
