This happens to everyone and no, I do not want any sympathy. If people do not go through this pain and heartbreak (either you do the breaking up, or you found the one already), they lack the experience of being rejected and having someone so constant leave your life. It's a process, but here are five things you learn when you get dumped.
1. How long it takes to get over your SO
Honestly it all depends on the person who got broke up with to determine this. It could be 2 weeks, 2 months, maybe even a year. It's not something that just happens overnight. You lost someone very important in your life and you have to go through the stages of grief to get through it.
Plus, you can't let any influence how short or long this process this takes. Everyday is different. Sometimes he doesn't cross your mind at all and others that's all you can think about.
2. How it feels to be at your worst state
Some nights all you can do is cry and eat so much ice cream or fast food that it feels like your life is actually falling apart. And at some points, honestly it might be. This might be a bit of an exaggeration, but this is when you actually feel your heart aching.
Listening to Taylor Swift's Speak Now album or any song that reminds you of him when you just take a drive to calm down when things get a little rough. You might push people away by treating them differently and you don't even realize it. All you want to do is curl up in your bed, turn on a sad movie and just cry your sorrows away.
3. Which friends really care about you
You're at your worst state and all you want to do is be alone, but here comes your group of friends, or best friend, with some cookies and demand you to come out with them. They know what you're going through too, because they too have had their heart broken.
They take your phone away so you won't be looking at it 24/7 to see if he has texted you and genuinely want you to have the best night of your life because you deserve it. The friends who drop what their doing or offer to take you out to dinner or just have a movie night and cuddle up are the ones to keep.
The friends that understand you're going through a rough time and might not be in your nicest state will stick by your side the whole time.
4. Everything happens for a reason
The phrase "easier said than done" was created for this phrase. While you understand the timing probably wasn't right or that the distance was too far, it takes awhile to fully put your mind to believing this statement.
Once you do though, your life is changed. It really does help you get through these bad times cause it reminds you that good times will come back in your life. Maybe by someone new or just being single. Realizing this statement is one of the first steps for getting over you SO.
5. How important self-love is
This the time where you are by yourself for awhile. You aren't sharing yourself with anyone else anymore. Self-love is so important to gain back during this time. Without self-love, you will not get over him or her. It just won't happen.
Self-love reminds you that there is nothing wrong with yourself and that one day you will get better. It reminds you how strong you were before this and how you will come out even stronger on the other side.
