Relationships are not easy and require effort on both sides. Mature relationships work as a team to solve their problems and can express their opinions, wants, or desires to each other. Immature relationships are ones that feel painful and forced. If you are working way too hard to make a relationship work then, you are probably in an immature relationship. Being with someone means making them feel loved and loving them. It means having them feel safe around you and appreciated. Being on your toes in a relationship is probably not healthy. Here are some examples of what an immature relationship would look like:
1. You are not functioning as a team.
A relationship is a team effort. You have to have each other's backs because it is you two against the world. If your partner is unwilling to help get things done or does their part, then you have an issue. For you both to be in a mature relationship, you have to be working together to reach a common goal. A one-sided relationship can lead to resentment and bitterness. Find someone who will cooperate with you, not for themselves.
2. You are not discussing significant issues when they come up.
Things will come up that we didn't expect. We all have issues we need to handle. If something is going on, you should be able to talk about it without it getting blown out of proportion. If you can't express what you want or need in a relationship without it turning into a fight or keeping it inside for weeks on end until it becomes a larger problem, then there is a serious breakdown in the relationship. Couples in mature relationships discuss their problems as they come up not after they have been boiling for weeks and have affected your feelings.
3. Hiding who you are
You should never have to pretend to be someone you're not. If you are scared that your partner will make fun of you for being yourself, then you are not in the right relationship. We all have different interests, and they will always change over time. You should never have to hide something that a part of you because it's not their interest.
4. Trying to change your partner
Partners are not dolls. You can't change them to act how you want them to. It isn't your job to change your partner into the perfect match. We should be their best supporters, but we should never put them down. The attitude is very immature and shows a lack of acceptance towards others. If you don't like them for who they are then maybe you should find someone else who is more compatible with you.
5. You don't see a future with your partner.
Your partner might be the best person to hang around and is the sweetest person you know, but if you don't see yourself marrying them, then you are just dating to break up. You are dating for the fun aspect of it and that's not very mature. Mature relationships see themselves growing old together, having children (if wanted,) and building a future. If you or your partner can't see a future together now, most likely you will never see one.
