You will come across a person — or a few people — that aren’t good friends. They may have some good qualities but when you sit back and think, you wonder why you’re friends in the first place. It’s hard to distinguish a bad friend sometimes, especially if you still want them around.
Having ups and downs is normal — what isn’t normal is when you eventually feel like they impact your life negatively. If you notice an ongoing pattern, maybe it’s time for you to cut them off.
1.They don’t act like they care when you tell them personal stuff.
This is the biggest red flag. If you let them vent to you and they don’t offer any support in return, run.
2. They leave you on read all the time.
I understand people get busy. But never replying? No, thank you.
3. They only talk about themselves.
It’s great to talk about your day, how you’ve been, etc. But it’s annoying and very rude to not ask about someone else when you’re basically blurting out your whole life story.
4. They talk over you all the time.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Not only is it disrespectful but it gives the idea that what the other person is trying to say isn’t important. I’ve been talked over so much that sometimes I just stop talking.
5.They blame everything on you.
More often than not, the blame is not all on you for any issue the two of you may have. The other party should own up to what they did as well.
6. They get upset if you hang out with others.
I understand that when you have a friend, you have a person that you do things with. But, if your friend gets upset because you don’t invite them to do everything, that needs to be addressed.
Even if you’re hanging out with a mutual friend you’re not obligated to invite the whole friend group.
7. They have a rude comeback for everything.
Everyone gets pessimistic and rude sometimes, that’s normal. If it gets to the point where they’re just being mean and you feel degraded, it’s time to call it quits and/or stick up for yourself.
8. They have an overbearing, "I don’t care" attitude.
I can’t stand this. If you don’t care about anything, then why do I want you in my life? You don’t care about anything? Me or our friendship? Bye.
9. They randomly stop talking to you.
If you honestly don’t know what you did wrong and they ghost you, leave. It’s so immature to ignore someone’s existence for no reason. If there was a reason that you’re unaware of, they should be mature enough to tell you.
10.You always feel like that you did something wrong.
This is the worst feeling ever. If you’re genuinely not doing anything and you find yourself apologizing all the time, say something. Don’t be a carpet.
11. They make you feel dumb.
If someone is always degrading your intelligence, say something. Seriously. It’s not right to always feel like you’re inferior to everyone else. If you really don’t know something, they should be willing to educate you or help you when you’re confused.
Don’t let someone degrade you.
12. You’re scared to voice your opinion.
You shouldn’t feel scared to talk to your friends. If you’re scared to voice your opinion, that person isn’t your friend.
13. You question the friendship.
If you’re questioning it, chances are, you’re not friends.
14. Your presence seems to annoy them all the time.
If they act like they’re annoyed with every little thing you do, it’s time to walk away. It feels horrible to feel like you’re not wanted.
15. They only come to you when they want something.
Don’t ever, ever, ever, EVER let someone use you. It’s fine to do favors and things like that, but if that’s the only time they talk to you, get rid of them.
16. There’s always drama.
A little drama is normal; no one has a drama free life. But if drama follows them everywhere, chuck the deuces up.
17. There are excuses every single time you ask to hang out.
Life gets busy — I get that. But if every single time you ask them to hang out, they always have an excuse, they really just don’t want to see you. You don’t need people in your life that are full of BS excuses.
18. You feel like you can’t be yourself.
If you can’t be yourself, ditch. There’s no reason why you have to be fake around your friends.
19. The bad outweighs the good but you still want to hold on.
Chances are, you have great memories. The memories are wonderful and something to hold onto forever. If you think there’s a chance that things can change, then communicate that. If that doesn’t work, consider leaving.
You’ll always have those memories, but you shouldn’t put up with always feeling crappy when with a friend.
If you’re reading this and can think of a few people, it’s time to re-evaluate your friendships. If you are someone who has realized you possess a lot of these qualities, you’re the bad friend. It may be time for you to take a step back and look at how you’re treating others.
Sometimes, we make the mistake of treating someone not as best as we can. There are cases where we might not even notice it. Speak up to people who make you feel that way. Listen to the friends that have something to say.
