Throughout one's lifetime, they are bound to receive a "bad" friend. This is someone that you feel is your friend, but then you realize that they do certain things that do not qualify them to be a "good" friend. Even with this realization, you may decide to keep them around. This could be because you can't get rid of them, or because you feel that if you do get rid of them, you'll have nobody else. Either way, this "friend" can prove toxic to your life, and may need to be reconsidered. Here are seven different aspects that make a friend a "bad" friend.
1. They never invite you to anything. You feel like you never see this person, and that is because they never reach out to you when they are going to do something. The worst is when they set up to go do something with your group of friends, but conveniently forget to tell you about it.
2. When they do invite you to something, they flake on you. They invite you to go to somewhere, and you're sitting there waiting to hear when they are going, just to find out they're already there or they already went. Or sometimes, you show up for that event, and they're not there, and later text you that they aren't going anymore. Either way, you are left in the dust.
3. They never like your Instagram posts. In the world of social media that we live in, every good friend likes every Instagram post, no matter how bad or good it is. It's an unwritten rule to friendship. This person bypasses all your posts, even though you see them liking everyone else's.
4. They don't tell you their secrets, and you don't feel comfortable sharing yours. You find out information about them months after the fact, and that's if you even find out at all. You find out things about them that they never told you, and probably were never planning on telling you. In return, you don't feel comfortable telling them your secrets either. What is friendship without communication?
5. They don't show interest in what's going on in your life. You may be really excited about something you accomplished, or upset about how your job is going. You try to tell them, and they seem to bypass your stories and start talking about their own, like yours didn't even matter.
6. They always expect you to work around their schedule, and never around yours. They get angry if they do actually invite you to do something, and you can't go because you have a prior commitment that you can't cancel. You then suggest going an hour later, and they say no, even though they are not busy at that time. It's their time or no time, and if you can't make it on their time, then they don't care if you can go or not. They will never accommodate your schedule.
7. They act really shady. You just get weird vibes off of them, and constantly have a fear that they are talking about you behind your back. You feel as if they are up to something, and they just might be. Your trust for them starts to diminish.
If you notice these traits in your friend, it may be time to reconsider the friendship that you have with them. Or maybe you can try to salvage it. Tell them how they make you feel, and how their actions bother you. Don't let it eat you up inside. These actions can leave you feeling lonely and unwanted, and these feelings prove to be devastating to your mental state. Don't let this "friendship" get to you. It's either time to ditch them or sit down and talk to them in hopes that things will change.
