19 Lessons I Wish I Wouldn't Have Learned The Hard Way

19 Lessons I Wish I Wouldn't Have Learned The Hard Way

Just take it from me.

Seriously just believe me when I tell you these things. It's better to know now than to find out for yourself. If you're anything like me, though, you won't listen. And, eventually, you'll figure it out on your own. Then, you'll also wish you wouldn't have learned these lessons the hard way.

1. Everyone is going to let you down at one point or another.

They say it's about who's worth the letdown.

2. Don't ever put a guy before your friends and family.

Guys come and go. Don't forget about the people who have been there all along.

3. One day, you grow up and have to make your own doctor's appointments and go grocery shopping.

And you'll have to pay for these, as well.

4. Our time with some is very limited.

Time is so precious. Make the very most of the time you're given with those around you.

5. Every action causes a reaction.

Every little thing you do or say will affect someone in some way. now, this may be a good thing or bad. That's up to you.

6. If you don't want to fail in college you actually have to study.

I know, crazy, huh?

7. Don't let your best friend dye your hair, no matter how good she claims to be.

Or you may end up with half-orange-half gray hair.

8. Wear lots of sunscreen when you're out on the river on Labor Day weekend.

This was painful to even think about.

9. Not everyone wants what's best for you.

Just keep that in mind.

10. Your first love may not be your last.

But life goes on.

11. The Cubs are capable of winning the World Series.


12. Promises get broken.

Don't expect much from others. If you want something, get up and do it for yourself. You are your best bet.

13. There are few genuine people out there.

So when you find one, don't let them go.

14. Most people want to hear your stories so they can spread them, not because they care.

Be very careful who you open up to.

15. Do not let anything or anyone stop you from doing what you want to do.

At the end of the day, all you're gonna have is God and yourself.

16. You should stop at stop signs.

Or you might pull out in front of someone and you might get pulled over and you might get a ticket.

17. Don't jerk your arm away when you're getting a shot.

If you think shots hurt before... boy, oh, boy.

18. When shopping with your grandma, don't try on clothes in front of her if you're trying to hide your tattoo.

Because then she'll lecture you for the rest of your life about how tattoos are bad.

19. Don't waste a minute being unhappy.

No lesson learned the hard way should be enough to make you unhappy. Nobody should ever have the power to take away from your happiness. Do what you have got to do for yourself to live your life to its fullest potential. Surround yourself with people you love and that encourage you rather than bring you down. Life is way too short ot not enjoy your every breathing minute.

Now don't say I didn't warn y'all.

XO and best wishes,

Ashley Rose Corbin

Cover Image Credit: Ashley Rose Corbin

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Why An Athlete Is Not Defined By Their Level

Pressure can drive athletes crazy.

With tryout season among us, it is so important that this be addressed before the teams for this upcoming year are formed. So many athletes that tryout, don't make the team they want and either quit to "take a year off" or jump ship to a gym that promises them to place the athlete on a higher level. I know that every athlete wants to be on level 5 team, the division is the most prestigious of all of them, especially because going to worlds is the end game for most athletes. The problem these days in the cheerleading world, is that our athletes are trying to level up at a rate that is just not quite realistic. If an athlete is on a level 1 team the chances of her being on level 4 next year is slim. It is necessary for athletes to experience each level for at least a year to learn all of the fundamentals of the level and build on them for their foundation as an athlete to be more concrete. This produces the best athlete possible.

A lot of athletes think that all that they need to jump levels is tumbling and that is just not the case. When teams are formed, coaches take a look at many different things, these qualities include but are not limited to: mental toughness, dedication, tumbling, stunting abilities, pace of learning, dance and attitude. Contrary to popular belief, there are so many factors that go into forming a team. This team not only has to be suitable for individual athletes but putting a team together is like a puzzle and as coaches we have to put a team together that will work well and have all the necessary percentages of skills to be competitive in their division.

We are concerned about building well-rounded athletes, not an athlete that is only capable in one facet of cheerleading. Some athletes are great level 4 tumblers, but have level 2 stunt ability and those two will not equal a level 4 athlete until we boost the stunting ability of said athlete. Putting an athlete on a team to just tumble is doing a disservice to not just the team, but also the athletes themselves. If this athlete joins a level 4 team to just tumble all year, when their tumbling progresses to that of a level 5 athlete, they will still have level 2 stunting skills and won't be put to good use when they are level 5 eligible. A well-rounded athlete is the kind of athlete that wins worlds.

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When athletes take their time and learn their level, they are not just learning completely new skills each year, but building on them. If done correctly, each year an athlete should improve on all points of cheerleading and not just one. The rules in each level lead to progressions for the level that it directly follows, so that athletes can safely learn skills by going up the ladder one step at a time. What most don't realize is that skipping steps is such an unnecessary practice. If Susie stays on level 2 for an extra year, she is not "learning nothing", she is improving on the skills that she didn't quite execute completely the year before, this will perfect her performance in this level and give a more solid foundation for her to build on when she is on a level 3 team.

Pressure can drive athletes crazy. Parents, your athletes have so many years ahead of them to be on a level 5 team and go to worlds, so pushing for a 10 year old, that is just not ready, to be on a level 4 team is unreasonable. Let your 10-year-old learn maturity and mental toughness at a level that is more appropriate, when your athlete is pushing herself too hard it takes the fun out of the tryout process and creates unnecessary stress on the athletes. Lastly, please be sure to support whatever decision your coaches make for your athlete's placement, they know your child and they are not trying to hurt their pride, but build them up so they can accomplish all of their goals as an athlete. Know that the level your kid makes this year doesn't define him or her as an athlete, but helps them grow into the cheerleader they have the ability to become!

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Tiger Is Back And 2019 Is Starting To Look Up

Tiger Woods might now have the greatest comeback story in sports history.


It's no secret that Tiger Woods means a lot to the game of golf. I wrote about his influence back in September when he achieved his one and only tournament win in 2018, first since 2013. I did, however, celebrate his win with a caveat of sorts: I wouldn't say he was back.

In golf, no one cares about how big your prize purse is, how many endorsements you've got or even how many tournaments you win. A golfer's career is measured by how many Majors they win. So for me, I couldn't claim Tiger was back until he secured at least one more Major victory before he decided to hang up the clubs for good.

But now, with a Masters championship under his belt and another green jacket to hang in the closet, I can safely say without a doubt in my mind that Tiger is back.

The biggest question with Tiger was whether or not he could carry the momentum from his Tour Championship into the Masters. Tiger has gotten our hopes up before, but things felt different the moment Tiger claimed that first tournament win in what felt like forever.

And honestly, there's no better way for the world's biggest golfer than in the world's biggest tournament. The "Tiger Effect" is very real, and the numbers are there to prove it. Despite having to tee off early for the final round with threesomes instead of duos to avoid storms, the Masters still delivered incredibly high TV ratings as Tiger played his way into contention the past few days. According to CBS, the final round of the Masters delivered a 7.7 rating which is the highest it's been in 34 years. I'll never forget where I was when Tiger won his fifth green jacket, and I'm certainly not alone in saying that.

So what does this mean for Tiger's legacy? For one, the argument of "can Tiger win another major before he retires" can finally be put to rest. I'm not a huge fan of the talking heads in the sports industry, but watching this video of the slue of bad Tiger takes just brings a smile to my face. It also resurfaces the Jack Nicklaus debate as the greatest golfer of all time. Having now secured his 15th Major win, breaking Nicklaus' record at 18 Major wins seems entirely possible. Statistically, Tiger winning another Major is not outside of the realm of possibility. Julius Boros was the oldest player to win a Major at 48, so Tiger at 43 theoretically gives him another five years. One thing's for sure, the entire sports world will be watching.

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