Self worth is so important but it's something a ton of people struggle with. Society tells us to love ourselves before others can love us but society is also a total hypocrite. Society is the people who, with every chance they're given, rip you apart until you can't even look at yourself without seeing the things they're pointing out and saying sucks. So, the question of the hour is, how are you supposed to build and develop self worth when others are telling you the otherwise? The answer is forget what everyone else has to say about you and follow these few words of advice.
1. Do what makes you happy.
Are you happy? Are you doing things that YOU want to do and do things that put a smile on your face.
2. Create personal goals.
And write them down. Setting personal goals, writing them down and crossing them off when they are reached is not only satisfying but also a huge confidence builder...and it helps you keep your mind off of the negativity. Think of things you wanted to complete. They can even be daily goals as small as doing chores, exercising, etc.
3. Be around people who support you.
Surround yourself with people who push you and help you realize your greatness. Being around people who support your goals and decisions help you stay positive. If you're around people who want to see you succeed, you will push yourself to be better than the day before. On the flip side, surrounding yourself with people who would do anything to see you fail hurts your self worth and confidence...remember, misery loves company.
4. Love yourself.
It's so easy for people to look into the mirror and pick out the things they hate about themselves. Social media, in my opinion, is one of the things we can thank for this. All over social media platforms are pictures of models, celebrities and athletes who are beautiful, buff, "shredded," skinny and "trendy." We see these things and we look in the mirror asking ourselves why we don't look like that. Instead of comparing yourself to the pictures posted online that are defined as "beautiful," pick out some things about yourself that you love. It could be your eyes, your hair, anything. It all starts with a thought. So before you pick out something you hate, find something you love and say it out loud.
5. Believe in the process.
Sure, there are times when things get rough. You will make progress and there will be some obstacles. But, if you stick to the process and you believe in yourself and the process itself, success will come. If an obstacle arises, face it.
6. Take responsibility.
Take responsibility for your actions, face your problems and understand that it isn't always someone else's fault. When you start taking responsibilities for your own actions is when you will fully understand what you're capable of and your true strength.
7. Drop your worries and insecurities.
Yeah, sure, it's hard to just forget about the things eating you from the inside out. But take one day where you don't worry about anything and feel free and relax. You deserve it. If it feels really good, it will be easier to move on from these things. If it doesn't feel so great, take it slower. *Drop mic*
8. Take your time.
There's no rush when it comes to life. I mean, yeah, it's short, but enjoy the moments. Especially the little ones that you think back on and smile.
9. Write down your accomplishments.
Writing down your accomplishments is an amazing way to realize what you are capable of. If you write everything down, you can physically look at all of your accomplishments and see all that you have completed. Not only are you able to see what you have completed, but you are also able to add more things to your wish list.
10. Focus on having more good days than bad days.
Days can flip upside down or right-side up in a blink of an eye. If your day starts out crappy, focus on making it better. Grab a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee shop, go for a run around the park, call up a friend to gossip about whatever is on your mind. Whatever it takes, focus on making the bad days good and the good days better. If you try to make every day a good day, pretty soon it will just come naturally. You'll be able to accept the way you are, love yourself for being you and appreciate what you have around you.
