There are extroverts, and there are introverts. And then there are people that are extroverted sometimes and introverted other times. Sounds pretty complicated…. trust me, it is. Here are a few things you should know about us outgoing introverts:
- People assume we’re comfortable around anyone, but large social gatherings actually give us mild anxiety.
When we’re in small groups with close friends we love being the center of attention. We will sing, dance, talk for hours, and crack jokes. Put us in a crowd of strangers and we suddenly become the most awkward creatures on the planet. Large groups give us anxiety, and we hate making small talk. Empty conversations are not our thing and neither are large groups of strangers that we are forced to mingle with. You’ll probably catch us near the food or petting the cat. - We are fiercely independent.
Outgoing introverts do not want or need anyone telling them what to do or how they should do it. We value our alone time and really couldn’t care less what other people think about us. Relationships aren’t a priority for us because we are more concerned with our own personal growth. - Because of that, we’re extremely picky about who we invest our time with.
This goes for relationships and friendships alike. If we agree to go on a date with you, take it as a compliment because we don’t say yes to just anyone. Additionally, we don’t make friends just to have friends. We deeply value our friendships and would much rather have a small number of really close friends.
- We don’t really know how to handle our phones?
Sometimes we’re constantly texting or snapchatting. Sometimes we want nothing to do with our phones. If it takes us a few hours (or days) to text back, don’t take it personally. Also, phone calls freak us out. If we’re not expecting a call from you, we’ll probably let it ring and call you back in a few minutes when we’re ready. I know, it’s weird.
- There’s no such thing as an awkward silence.
We don’t like forced conversations, so when there’s a pause it’s totally okay. You know what they say, silence is golden. - Sometimes, we have to cancel plans…..
It’s Monday and we have every intention of going out with friends on the weekend. But come Friday, we reeeeaaaally just want to stay in and watch Netflix or read. We don’t mean to be flaky, but sometimes we just don’t have it in us to be social. - Our energy depends on the day, our mood, and our environment.
Some days we can go nonstop and other days we can’t even handle going to the grocery store. Some people see this as being anti-social; we like to think of it as selectively social. - We spend way too much time in our heads.
Outgoing introverts are introverts at their core, so we tend to overthink and analyze everything. There’s always a million things going through our head. Because we tend to observe everything it’s best not to lie to us. We always find out. - When we haven’t had time to recharge, we get really irritable.
Socializing can be physically draining for us and we simply can’t do it for hours on end. We will get grumpy and unpleasant to be around. Once we have our alone time, we’ll be back to normal. It’s kind of like when you’re extremely hungry and pissed at the world, but as soon as you eat you feel much better.
- It takes a lot for us to open up to people.
We don’t like talking about our problems or ourselves to people and we are notorious for keeping things bottled up. If we have the courage to open up to you about something, we really trust you and value your opinion.
