10 Struggles Of New Relationships
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10 Struggles Of New Relationships

Those aren't butterflies you're feeling, they're farts.

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10 Struggles Of New Relationships
Elizabeth Stone

Being comfortable around someone is the best feeling in the world. So, of course, when relationships fail and a new one begins, the first few months can be the worst. Readjusting and trying to become comfortable with your new partner can take some time, so be prepared for some awkward and embarrassing moments!

1. Butterflies

All those butterflies you get when you are around your new partner? Well, they aren't butterflies, they're bodily functions! When is the right moment to let one rip? There is no right time to or perfect moment to burp or pass gas, it will happen unexpectedly and be so embarrassing! However, after the first few awkward slip-ups, it will soon become normal and comfortable!

2. Eating

For some reason, eating can be so embarrassing. Food can get stuck in your teeth, sauce can get on your face or ketchup will spill all down your shirt. So, for the first few dates, most people stick with something easy and clean to eat. But after a few laughs over spilled spaghetti and basil stuck between teeth, it will be fun to stuff your face with a big, messy burger with no worries!

3. All natural

Makeup is a big deal to most girls and it is kind of a safety blanket. Makeup covers the small imperfections and highlights the best features. For the first few months, perfect make up will be a huge priority. No runny eyeliner, no lipstick in the corners of the mouth and a perfect highlight. The first time not wearing makeup is a huge step and once you feel comfortable without makeup around your partner, it feels so relaxing!

4. Insecure

We all have flaws and we all are unsure about ourselves. Being with someone new, the feeling of insecurity can sometimes skyrocket. You do not want your partner to not like something about you. But once you realize that it's all in your head and that you both see past the tiny flaws we worry so much about, it is freeing. The little belly roll or the jiggle of your arms is nothing at all.

5. Family

Meeting your partner's family for the first time is a major deal and can make it or break it. You pray they like you, but even more that you like them. After the first meeting, things will go smoother at your next meeting. After a while, they become a second family to you! It just takes time, but it is a huge discomfort for the time being.

6. Intimacy

The first kiss will be the worst! The first time will be so awkward and weird. It is natural, and once you both become more and more comfortable with each other and more comfortable in your own body around your partner, the relationship will soar. It is always awkward because it is the first, and neither knows what the other one likes or what they are feeling.

7. Self-conscious

Everything you say or do is amplified in your own mind. Do I smell OK? Do I look OK? Did I really just say that? Oh my, I just snorted!? Your mind will be racing and replaying everything you did and said while you're around them. Once you both realize how awkward you both are, it will make the relationship fun and funny.

8. Sweating

Palms sweaty, feet sweaty, armpits sweaty! There is no way to stop it and no amount of deodorant will stop all the sweating. It is a normal, human response to nerves and stress and it can be so embarrassing.

9. Sleeping

Tossing, turning or snoring, you won't feel comfortable sleeping next to each other for a while. Sleeping next to each other is a huge step and takes time to become comfortable.

10. Friends

If you do not have any mutual friends in common, that can be a major setback. Meeting their friends can be weird for you and meeting your friends can be scary for them. If you and the friends cannot get along, then issues will rise. However, if your partner gets too close to your friends, then it can be awkward or it will take away from the relationship.

Starting a new relationship is scary, exciting and embarrassing! The first few months are filled with new experiences and with each new experience makes it much easier to become comfortable being yourself with your partner!

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