A lot of women who find themselves pushing for a relationship with a man never really evaluate why he may not be worth it. By taking a step back and observing why he’s not your type, it becomes easier for any girl to really move past him, and learn to find someone to love her the way she deserves.
1. Not Passionate
If he is not passionate for the relationship like you are, this dude is not for you. Far too often, we find ourselves obsessing over what could be, or what could have been, rather than accepting it for what it is. Ask yourself, “Am I putting in more effort in this relationship than he is?” Answering “yes” only determines one thing: he’s not your type. Move on, to someone who is just as passionate about your relationship as you are.
2. Not Driven
Ladies, please, take a moment and see if he is driven for success. You do not want to find yourself falling for someone who has no self motivation and no ambition. Personally, I want a man who aspires to do great things, who is driven, and who goes after what he wants. If his biggest concern in life is partying, playing games, or anything that lacks a real thinker and someone who seeks a secure and promising future through success, he’s not your type. You want a man who wants to succeed with you, for you, and for himself.
3. Stressful
Do not fall for a man who causes more stress than happiness. I am so guilty of this, and I assume plenty of other ladies are. You are too beautiful to be stressing about a boy. If he isn’t texting you, do not stress, so not worth it. If you can’t read his emotions or what he wants from you, do not stress. Get out of that, because it’s so unhealthy. With all that we deal with already, from school to work to feeling like we have to compete with other women in looking best, we should not be stressing about any male. It’s not worth it. So if he is causing you too much anxiety or stress: he’s not your type.
4. Degrading
If he makes you feel lesser than you are, then you need to kick him to curb, sister. No man should ever tell a woman she can’t or that she’s not good enough. You are good enough, in fact you’re better, so get out of that relationship! Him telling you things to make you feel so small, is not love; it’s hate. Therefore, he’s not your type.
5. Not a Lover of Others
If he shows anger, hate, or envy to others, is he really someone you want to be with? Pick a man who wants to make other people smile and who constantly strives to see the good in others. If he is nitpicking at everyone’s flaws, who’s to say he’s not doing the same to you? The sexiest thing is a man who gets a high off of making others happy. If he is set out to put a smile on other’s faces, then he’s determined to make you feel like the queen you are. Otherwise, he’s not your type.
6. Secretive
Ladies, this is not middle school!! Secrets are not cool nor are they good for a relationship. In fact, a healthy relationship is built on trust and honesty. You cannot be with someone who is sketchy and inconsistent. Whether he's secretive with what he does with his time, or even if he desires to keep you a secret from the outside world, he's not your type. Get a man who wants to spend his (spare) time with you and show you to all his friends.
7. Selfish
Come on girls, you want a giver, not a taker. Find a man who wants to give you the world and then some, not someone who constantly is concerned with themselves. If he is taking more than giving with anything in life, and he proves to be a self centered man, then he's not your type.
8. Afraid of Commitment
Honestly, if he's afraid of commitment, you're just wasting your time. Do not get a man who from the get go either shows or tells you about his fear of commitment, because he is not your type.
If he cannot commit, then make like a baby and head out.
9. Indecisive
Get a guy who knows what he wants! Does he want to be with you or does he want to live the single life? Come on dudes, as the old saying goes, you can't have your cake and eat it, too. Make a decision. And ladies, do not deal with a guy who strings you along, not knowing what he wants. If he takes too long to decide, or is iffy on his decision, he's not your type.
10. Lack of Communication
Hey guys, cat got your tongue? No? Then why is it so hard for you to communicate? If you're interested in a girl, talk to her. Otherwise, beat it. We aren't interested in your little mind games. My motto for relationships is, "A text a day keeps the stress away." I'm not hard to please, though. For those ladies who feel the need to talk to you every minute of the day, you need to either talk to her or tell her you're not interested. Don't be that guy who assumes we can read your mind and signs, because we can't. If a guy can't tell you how he's feeling or at the very least talk to you, then he's not your type.
So girls, if you're struggling with a guy and you can't decide whether he's worth your precious time or not, take a step back and reevaluate. Does he break any of these 10 rules? Does he cause stress and make you question the status of your relationship constantly? Does he cause you to be an emotional wreck? If there's a yes to any of these questions, then he's not your type.
