Although some of us might be bitter about our ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, it's important to remember the relationship ended for a reason and even if it's hard to admit, you had some good times when you two were together. It's better to be civil, look back on the enjoyable couple of months or even years you spent with each other and appreciate the good ole times.

1. The Laughs

We had some pretty hilarious drives singing and dancing in the car to music, fighting in the kitchen, watching movies on the couch, or when one of us fell while ice skating or simply tripping over our own two feet. We knew how to make fun of each other where it led to laughter not fights and I thank you for making me laugh so hard some days my abs hurt.

2. The Dates

Thank you for all the money you spent buying me sushi, taking me to the movies, train tickets to the city and so on. Our little dates to the pizza place that we thought nothing of on Friday nights when you'd make me finish my whole piece even though I wasn't hungry are the memories I'll remember when I'm 50 years old reminiscing my 19-year-old days.

3. The Fights

I didn't realize it at the time, but looking back at our fights I can see that sometimes I actually was "being crazy" or simply immature. You're not getting off that easy, you caused a lot of the arguments too but fighting with you made me realize relationships shouldn't be that hard. Fighting weekly wasn't healthy and I don't want to waste time in my next relationship bickering when we should be appreciating each other. So, thank you for all of our insignificant fights; they made me step back and realize I need to pick my battles with the next person I cross paths with.

4. The Late Night Conversations

Thanks for getting to know all of my idiosyncrasies and sharing yours with me. Not only did you appreciate them, but you never once used them against me. On those late night drives and sunset gazing on the beach, I remember how we spent the time trying to understand one other and I'm grateful you cared enough to learn the most trivial things about me whether it was my biggest fears, my most random ideas or my favorite flavor of frozen yogurt.

5. The Memories

Even though they're in the back of my mind and I don't think about them often, they will forever be embedded in my brain. Our time together was once a huge part of my life and when I look back I try not to remember the pain you put me through because that will only make me cynical, so instead I choose to remember the days we spent at the beach or sat by the fire surrounded by our friends because years from now when I look back at these pictures, I'll smile, laugh and wish you well.

6. The Letdowns

Thank you for not wanting to hold my hand in public, for going to get drunk with your friends and then begging me to pick you up. Thank you for ignoring my calls, pointing to my birthday gifts on the counter that you couldn't take 5 minutes to wrap, breaking up with me over a voicemail and then telling me you didn't remember it the next morning. Thank you for making me look like a fool, it made me realize that I deserve so much more than what you gave me. You showed me what not to look for in a guy. I let you take advantage of how much I loved you, but the next girl probably won't, so please don't drag her through the mud like you dragged me.

7. The Makeups

I could always expect a well-written apology, flowers and maybe even some tears after you screwed up; you always knew exactly what to do so I'd give you another chance. Even though deep down I knew in a couple weeks we'd be doing the same dance, I always gave you the benefit of the doubt, but no more. Your actions taught me not to be weak and dependent on anybody, the only chance I'll give someone now is one, I should've never given you a second.

8. The Heartache

I never though I'd say these words, but thank you for breaking my heart. At the time, it hurt like hell but it showed me that life goes on and time really does heal. I've realized that at 20 years old, I am perfectly happy being on my own without anyone holding me down. I am so much happier now than during our best days together, so thank you. If it wasn't for the heartache you caused me, I wouldn't be who I am today.

9. Leading Me On

Even months after we had broken up, I could still expect to wake up to a text from you every now and then to see how I was doing or what I was up to. You were the master of mind games and making me believe you truly gave a sh**. Thanks to you, I'll never let myself get tangled up in someone's web of lies again, because now I know every trick in the book.

10. Letting Me Go

Looking back, I was more miserable during our relationship than I was happy, but at the time, I thought that was okay. We had more bad days than good but of course, I only liked to acknowledge the good ones and you only saw the bad. However, letting me go was the best thing you could've done because eventually I realized we were never good for each other and just how toxic our relationship truly was, but I still think of you from time to time and only wish you the best. Maybe in the future, we'll be friends or maybe we'll move away and never see each other again. Whatever the case, I thank you for all that you've done for me, taught me and put me through, the good the bad.