Just because you're the girl in the relationship doesn't mean you get to decide everything; where to eat, what to do on dates, what to watch at the movies, etc. A common misconception in our world is that your boyfriend must do whatever you want or else "he isn't treating you right." Ladies, please. A relationship is give and take. This doesn't mean you can't have your way at all, just remember to honor the man in your life the way he honors you. Be fair, be just, be loving in your words and actions and lastly, be kind to him. He makes sacrifices on the daily to make you happy. The least you can do is return the favor.
In my personal experience, I've learned this lesson well. But, it's taken me a while. My S.O. is wonderful. He makes sure I know that I am loved (truly), he spends his hard earned money on me weekly, and he always asks where I want to go or what I want to do before he makes any type of suggestions on these matters. I've been quite selfish with this, too. I've picked our movies for almost a whole month, making him watch stuff even if he didn't really want to (he'd never tell me that but I know when he doesn't want to do something.) He's wanted to go to certain restaurants but we wouldn't because I was tired of them. I've dragged him around town to all the department stores because I wanted to go shopping and he was a trooper the entire time. He has made many other compromises just so I could be happy. He deserves to be treated the same way he treats me. As do all boyfriends.
Your relationship is built on trust, honesty and commitment. You trust him to take care of you, he's honest when he tells you he loves you, and he's committed to making you happy and keeping you that way. Just because you're the girl doesn't mean you are entitled to anything, though. You made him earn your trust and made him prove himself to you, why shouldn't he do the same to you? We're all preaching about feminism and equality but it doesn't just apply to money and the workplace. You are equals and should always treat each other that way. When someone says "well you're supposed to go where you want. You're the girl," they're basically saying your boyfriend doesn't get a say in the matter. Why? Because he's a male? Because it's his "job?" Men have feelings too, and I think we forget that sometimes.
Being a girl in the relationship only means one thing. You're a girl. That's it. You're not privileged to any special treatment from him. If you treat him like a dog then you don't deserve to be treated any better. If you have the right S.O., he will willingly treat you like a princess (Disney princess to be exact), and he'll treat you well and put you on a pedestal. Do not, I repeat, do not make the mistake of putting him below that pedestal. Don't think he is supposed to worship you. You are his princess, or queen or whatever royal term you prefer, but only in figurative means. Every princess needs a prince, and every queen a king. Treat him like the good man that he is. He deserves it.
