I find this statement to be false. I've been in a relationship for a while now and I can honestly say that I'm happy I'm going to college with one. Why? Here are 4 reasons.
1. He holds me to a high standard.
Being in a relationship comes with a lot of rules. For instance, you can't constantly text other boys, you can't Snapchat other boys, you can't do this, you can't do that, and while it seems like you're just gaining another parent in reality you're just trying to find somebody that you can spend your life with, and a few rules here and there are helpful. By no means am I ready to get married, especially to my boyfriend. That's a couple years away and if it isn't with him that's fine, but I would still rather be in college with him as my boyfriend so he can hold me to these rules so that I don't fall apart and just fall out over every boy that walks by me. Not saying I would or other girls would, but some have the conception that they'll find "the one" in college, and maybe you will, but if you and your boyfriend have been together for a while or just met a nice boy over the summer why not continue it or try it out? You never know what will happen. Don't plan what you'll do in college, live in that moment. My parents found each other in high school, my best friends parents met when they were 25 and out of college.
2. I wouldn't make too dumb of a decision to lose him.
Don't get me wrong, I'm going to college and want to have a good time. But getting drunk or partying every single weekend isn't my cup of tea. Nothing against those who chose to do so, because I'm more than willing to be your Mama for the night, but listening to others say "When you're drunk you just don't care. You know what you're doing, you just don't care," seems like a call for disaster to me. Sure, I can have fun and do what I want, but at the end of the day, I choose whether I want to ruin my relationship or continue it, and having a boyfriend allows me to know "okay that's my limit--stop" and by doing that some may say I'm "whipped", but that isn't such a bad thing. Again, I'm by no means ready for marriage, but why date him if I don't see a future? Why waste my time? All relationships have their ups and downs, and you chose to be "whipped" or mature and get through it or let him go.
3. His mother and father raised him RIGHT.
My boyfriend's mother is an AMAZING woman. She taught him to be respectable, independent, and to hold his ground. He is definitely a mama's boy, and watching him treat her like a queen is a sight worth seeing. Why would you want to date someone who treats their mother like she is anything below that? His mother taught him how to treats others, but not to be ran over, and she showed him that family is one of the most important things in life.
His father is one of the smartest men I've had the pleasure of meeting. He made a life for himself coming out of high school by owning his own business and his mentality has rubbed off onto both of his sons. My boyfriend goes into things with a logical mindset instead of an emotional one, and if he wants something bad enough, he will go and get it. He doesn't fight battles that aren't worth fighting, and when he says all he has to say - that's it, he won't continue to argue because, as my grandfather says, "The only person who argues with a fool is a fool."
My boyfriend's parents raised him to be hardworking and devoted and he has proved that through his passion for baseball, as he continues to climb that ladder and is now playing at a D1 college and the way he treats me.
No, not all boyfriends are like him, and all parents are different. But my point, is that the two people who raise the person you date, shine through them in many ways. They will ALWAYS be there, before and after you. Blood is thicker than water, and there is a difference between a boy and man, and his parents raised him to be a man.
4. Finally, I like being with him.
If you want to go to college single and that works for you, FINE!! Relationships take A LOT of time and energy, and it's not for everyone at certain points in their lives. I personally like being in a relationship, and some of my friends just don't want to be in one right now so they can get their lives in order first and that is F I N E. I like the time my boyfriend and I spend together and all the places we go together. I like how he can go play golf a few times a week, train for baseball, and make time for his friends on some weekends. That's how it's supposed to be! All these social media sites hype relationships up and down, some make them look like they are just amazing and perfect and we are supposed to hang out every single day and text 24/7 while others make them look miserable to be "tied down" and they also make boys look like total jerks and you're "better off single." Sure, maybe for some, but I can promise you that your personal relationship with your boyfriend is 100x better than the made up ones on Twitter and Instagram.
My boyfriend isn't perfect, nor am I, but we are young and could chose not to be together because we're in college and want to have fun without a relationship. Four years of fun has to come to an end and it WILL come to an end eventually. God has a plan. I don't know what his plan is for me, maybe my boyfriend and I will make it, maybe we won't, but for now I'm going to go along with these "rules" and being "whipped" as well as being the best girlfriend I can be because at the end of the day, losing a two year relationship with my best friend and boyfriend over one night of being "influenced" isn't worth it, and if I want to be the only girl out of 20 to have a boyfriend in college, than fine! I can still have just as much fun and make time with them while having him in my life! You aren't "tied down" from fun and continuing to be yourself in YOUR relationship. It will not be easy nor perfect, you will argue, yell, cry, laugh, and be so happy at times you won't even remember why you were mad three days before. Do what YOU want and not what others do, because for all you know they could be wishing they were in your shoes.
