So you went through Sorority recruitment, hours upon hours of cute dresses and sitting in a chair, intimidated, while a bunch of girls with perfect curls form a circle around you, singing. Magical right? Let's just say it isn't for everyone.
Regardless, you survived. You've finally found your new home, you walk through the doors and then suddenly you have 100 new sisters and one huge question, "who will be my big". SPOILER ALERT: choosing one sister in particular who will love you unconditionally and guide you seemingly throughout your years of college is NOT as easy as sleeping through your 8am on Monday morning. Choosing a big requires a whole lot of thought, and a little luck too. So let's say you weren't the lucky one. Let's say your dreams of catching a bouquet five years down the road and hearing the words "Thank you for being the best maid of honor ever, little!" isn't actually going to happen. Ever. What do you do now?
Step One: Realize it isn't your fault.
A few months, two Netflix binge sessions and a fro-yo date isn't exactly enough time to get to know someone completely and that's okay. The big/little relationship is a very complex thing. Just because you aren't best friends with your big doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Putting everything you have into the relationship isn't very satisfying either. If you click with your big then perfect, if not then there are other sisters that you might click with better.
Step Two: Move on.
Go to that frat party with the sister who invited you. Remember her? You were consumed with worrying why your big was "too busy" to have lunch with you that you said no. Remember you still have your whole college career ahead of you, It isn't even close to being over. Why not embrace it? Look forward to the socials, philanthropy events and having a little of your own one day.
Step Three: Forgive her
Yes, she is your big and she is supposed to be there to keep you from texting your ex on a whim- at three am. She's not supposed to judge you after you eat an entire box of pizza. So what if she doesn't do those things? Just like you shouldn't blame yourself, you shouldn't blame her. You may want to think the whole relationship is a complete failure and that it is all her fault. Relationships are a tricky thing and not everyone is the best fit for each other, just look at Tom and Jerry. Having a big that doesn't talk to you every day doesn't make her a terrible big it just means that you are going to have to branch out of your comfort zone and realize that you have over 100 sisters for a reason, you're bound to fit with one of them.
