Your best friend starts dating a girl you don’t like.
Let’s think about why you don’t like her: She’s actually a mean, self-centered, horrible girl but your friend won’t see it because she’s either hot or he doesn’t see what you see; She’s taken your best friend captive because he’s now fully enslaved and you’re too protective to let that happen; There is some type of feelings never discussed between you two and you don’t want to believe he would ever date someone like her.
So how do we go about this problem? We can always accidentally make her disappear. OK, completely kidding. Seriously: if she’s just rude to you, you gotta talk to the dude. If he is truly your best friend, he will hear you out and hopefully talk to her. She may be uncomfortable with a girl and guy being best friends because she’s been cheated on or may think you two flirt too much, so who knows what her true motives are unless you talk to her. If your friendship is important, she should care enough about you to not be threatened by you.
I know you’re thinking you don’t want to be polite to a girl who is making your bestie into a puppy and I agree: don’t. You should call him out on it and tell him to grow up because nothing is less attractive then watching a man grovel. You want respect from your bros? Don’t let her walk all over you. I’m all for girls being seen as breadwinners instead of homemakers, but that doesn’t mean more power than the man. Equal share of power in a relationship and compromising: skills that will help the two of you last and stay together.
Lastly, what if you have some unfinished business with this guy? Maybe he just starts talking to this girl and you two have a moment and you think he should be with you. Well, maybe he should be. Talk to him. There’s no easy way to go about this sticky situation, so tread lightly. If you’re that into him, don’t let him go. Just see how he feels because if he wants it, he will go for it. Don’t ruin a friendship if he doesn’t pick you though.
If your friend really is dating someone you don’t like, just get her out of the picture. Whether it is explain your feelings to him or “accidentally” spilling a drink on her making her leave the party so you and him can be alone, just get her out. I’m kidding guys, relax. I really do believe that he will always come back to you for advice or your friendship. You were there and stuck by his side when things got rough; he knows who has his back. Girlfriends come and go, and this won’t be the end of the friendship. If it somehow does turn out to be the end, he’s not the friend you need in your life because there is better out there for you. At the end of the day, it will always be you.
