Take Care Of Yourself And Remember It Is Okay To Say 'No'

Take Care Of Yourself And Remember It Is Okay To Say 'No'

Don't give up your happiness for someone who is not worth it.


No, this is not an article on consent, although consent is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. This is an article on saying no to more subtle things in life, like not continuing to be in a school club, or saying no to hanging out with that friend you know is toxic.

I am a people pleaser, always have been. I have always felt like it was my job to make sure everyone around me was happy, even if it meant sacrificing my happiness. Through the years, I have learned that this mindset is not healthy at all.

Letting people get what they want constantly and allowing others to walk all over you destroys you inside, even if you don't realize it. I have been put in many situations where I have felt like the Twitter meme of Drake's tweet, "What am I gonna do? Say no?" I have not known what else to do besides say yes.

Sometimes people ask things in ways that make you feel like you can't say no, because you'll come off as rude or irrational, but you don't owe it to anyone to be complacent all the time. If you are not comfortable with a situation, stand your ground and say it.

A lot of people will say that quitting is something you should never do. I disagree with this wholeheartedly. I believe that at some point in our lives, we are faced with a choice, to continue doing something or to leave. If we are unhappy with where we are and what we are doing, it is okay to put that thing to an end. It is okay to say no to continuing to be in that club or work that job. If you can find something else that can make you happy and you are only staying in the situation out of fear of being called a quitter, please leave.

You have one life. Do not waste it away doing what others think you should be doing or pleasing everyone by saying yes all the time.

If you have a friend who is toxic, get them out of your life. Don't keep saying yes to everything they ask of you just because you don't want to upset anyone.

I have learned that in life we have to upset people sometimes, otherwise, we would never be looking out for ourselves. In no way am I saying to be inconsiderate of people's feelings, but I am saying to please be considerate of yours.

It is far too easy to worry about others more than you worry about yourself. It is a slippery slope once you have lost the ability to say no when you are uncomfortable with a situation. Even if you have lost it, it can be found, and it is something you must find in order to be happier.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Part 1: Necessary Changes

One of my favorite movies is "Fried Green Tomatoes" with Kathy Bates. In the movie Bates' character Evelyn Couch says, "Someone helped put a mirror up in front of my face, and I didn't like what I saw one bit. And you know what I did? I changed." I know the feeling.


I looked in the mirror over the weekend and didn't like what I saw.

The person I saw looking back at me is petty, selfish, manipulative, and unattractive. It wasn't that I hated what I saw, but I definitely didn't like what I saw either. It's a surreal feeling, looking at yourself through a critical lens, and it doesn't make you feel good in any way shape or form.

The image that I see of myself is not how I want others to perceive me. I want to be someone that people look at and see kindness, compassion, strength, and confidence.

I have enough general life experience to know that these types of changes aren't going to happen overnight, and not all of them will be physical; most of these will have to happen from the inside, from within myself.

When you find out you are all broken and damaged, it's hard to know where to start putting the pieces back together. I figured the best place to start would be the most literal: my actual insides; so, I decided to embark on a deep-cleansing journey to get all of the toxins out of my body, from the inside out.

I found this book on 10-day green smoothie detox stashed away in the dark corner of my bookshelf. The science behind it seems accurate and legitimate. By eliminating certain foods, your body is able to detox itself off of chemicals and foods that are slowing down your metabolism; the smoothies are specifically designed with combinations of foods that help restart your metabolism. Part of the detox process is getting rid of all dependencies on caffeine, alcohol, and sugar.

Every day you are given the recipe for a specific smoothie; you make the smoothie (about 40 ounces) and sip on it throughout the day whenever you get hungry. Every smoothie is a combination of leafy greens, water, fruit, and flax seeds. If you do happen to get hungry throughout the day, you are encouraged to eat raw nuts, hard boiled eggs, and a wide variety of crunchy green vegetables. There is also a detox tea that you have first thing in the morning, but other than that no other beverages are allowed except water.

I know that this is only the beginning of a very long, emotional, and draining journey. But I think I'm at the point in my life where I have to make these changes. I have to put my pieces together, I have to become a normal functioning adult, I have to find out who I am. I think that this is the perfect way to start.

For the next 10 days I am going to be documenting my experiences, how I'm feeling, what my emotions are doing, and any results that I see.

Stay tuned!

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