It's sad, that in our generation this is becoming more and more common. For those of you who are lucky enough to not know what this is, ghosting is when someone you are talking to completely vanishes. They stop responding back to your text messages and ignore your calls. It's as if they fell off the face of the earth. You are left sitting there wondering what changed overnight. That's when they become a person you once knew..

I was talking to this girl for three months. She was the first person I was open to give a chance to after my breakup. Everything wasn't smooth sailing between us but we were making it work. Days prior, we went on a nice date and ended the night with us spilling more of our feelings on the table. We were texting normal all day long until the sun went down. I guess that's when her love for me did too. I got a text at 9:37 that evening saying, "we need to talk." Those were the last words she said to me. The last words I'd ever hear from her again..

I stayed up numerous nights trying to figure out what I did wrong. Or what I could have done better to keep her interested. After talking day in and day out she started to know me on a deeper level. She knew my situation and how fragile I was. So why would she do something like this to me? Was this all just a game to her? These are the type of questions that kept flooding my mind.

Was it just my luck that after the horrible breakup I had, this would be my first encounter with falling for someone again? I kept hoping this was like a hide and seek game and she would eventually pop back up. But that wasn't the case.

Being forced into this type of situation can mess with your mind to the extreme. It leaves you wondering and questioning so many things. Like, how is it so easy for someone to just drop you overnight and treat the connection you had as a joke? The worst thing you can do is play with someones emotions. It's hard to come back from something like this. Getting ghosted could make you lose hope in finding true love in your path. Or even scare you to never want to even attempt it again.

There is an upside to being ghosted though. Yeah, it will hurt pretty bad in the beginning because you will go through the phase of accusing yourself and missing them. You started trusting them little by little with your heart and your feelings. But then your eyes open up. You start learning and understanding your self worth. That you deserve more than someone who would throw everything you started building together out the window overnight.

This is just another lesson learned. This isn't saying that you should keep your guard up at all times. This is saying that you should have love for yourself before you can love someone else. To have enough self respect and to not let someones action like this affect you to the core. To not let it even come close to ruining your vision of searching for your soulmate. They came into your life and reminded you that self worth is the up most important thing to hold onto.

So hold your head high and keep that vision of yours straight. Don't let someones selfish decisions affect your precious little heart. Just keep swimming..

"Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."- Babe Ruth