At one point in most people's lives, we struggle with discovering who we really are and what we want out of life. We constantly battle our insecurities and try to figure out what we can do to be better. Sometimes it's even easier to give in to what everyone else expects from you. Lately, the main thought that has been running through my mind is that I am not who I want to be. I've just been going with the flow of everyone else instead of doing what I want to do. I've become insecure to standing up for myself and being confident in my own actions. And it's not okay anymore. My inability to be myself and be proud of that constantly interferes with my friendships and relationships, and continues to cloud my judgement in every other aspect of my life. With the help of my best friend, I've come up with ideas that will help me, along with everyone else, realize the importance of loving myself.
As I already mentioned, it's simple to do what everyone else is doing and mirror their actions or personalities. If you surround yourself with the wrong people, you won't be able to fully develop into who you are because you might be nervous about what others would think. If that's the case, start surrounding yourself with other people. Meet new friends that support your lifestyle and like you for everything you do.
One of my biggest problems is worrying too much about what other people think of me. I'm scared of being judged, and I don't want to live like that anymore. I'm slowly but surely starting to just be as silly as I want and it feels so great. If people don't like that, they shouldn't be my friends anyways. My point is that you should never have to give in to other people's expectations of who they want you to be. You don't need to impress anyone. Find yourself and love who you are.
Whether you want to believe it or not, I truly believe that insecurities can ruin relationships. I believe that if you don't love yourself, how can someone else? I've been in this situation one too many times before I realized that I need to focus on myself and my challenges before taking on anyone else's. Although we will always continue to grow within our relationships, there's a certain level of confidence that we need to reach before committing to love someone else. If we don't know who we are or what we want, we can easily confuse that with what someone else wants.
We all have different personalities, ideas, and flaws that makes us who we are. No one is the same, and I think that's what makes us all so great. We shouldn't need other people to convince us just how awesome we really are. I believe that everyone has so much potential to achieve their goals, and we must start by loving who we are and what we have to offer. So love yourself, believe in yourself, and cherish yourself. You are great.
