“I don’t deserve him.”
I cannot tell you how many times I have heard those words come out of people’s mouths. Especially from those who truly deserve to be treated well.
I’m here to tell you that if you’re saying the words, “I don’t deserve him,” it’s time to silence your thoughts for a second and listen to what I have to say.
If he is treating you well and you honestly care for him, then you deserve him.
I repeat, you deserve him.
While it’s not OK to be egotistical and full of yourself (humility is extremely important), it is OK to realize that you deserve to be happy. You are beautiful inside and out and you deserve to be with someone who lets you know it. You deserve to be in a relationship where he treats you well, and you should never settle for anything less. You have worth.
I’m not talking about a guy buying you everything your eyes see at your favorite store; nor am I saying he should spend his entire life savings on you.
What I am saying is that you deserve someone who respects you, who cares about you, who goes the extra mile for you and who not only verbally expresses it, but shows it through his actions.
Yes, you deserve him; but please, please, please remember something. Remember that he deserves to be treated the way he treats you. Relationships are a two way street -- whatever he gives, it’s vital to give that much back. He may pay for all your date nights, but it’s important that he knows that you truly appreciate it and do not take it for granted…ever.
My final thought on this subject revolves around why realizing that you deserve to be happy is important. While I’m not a relationship expert, I believe that is important for trust reasons.
Think about it. When you realize that you are in a relationship with someone who is a great match for you, and you know that you are the person he wants to be with, it helps to know that he isn’t going to be running off with some other girl. You won’t be worried about him cheating on you.
(By the way, it is very important to be in a relationship with someone who you can trust. Not being able to trust your significant other is a huge red flag!)
So the next time he does something nice for you, while you should appreciate him with all your heart, don’t forget that you are worth him treating you well!
