You Can't Do That In A Dress

You Can't Do That In A Dress

Uh. Yeah, I can.

As people, I think that we should be able to wear whatever the hell we want (because who doesn’t want to feel comfortable and confident in their clothes?). Personally, my wardrobe consists of many flowy dresses and skirts because that’s what I feel comfortable in. I even wrote a whole article about why I wear dresses because I like them so much.

I have worn them almost every single day for the past four years, and I like to believe that I can do anything in them that a person can do in pants or shorts. However, people have brought it upon themselves to comment on my choice of clothing more times than I can count. Frankly, I’m sick of the constant questions and comments, so to combat them I’ve compiled a list of questions that I’ve gotten asked and gifs that sum of my reactions.

1. “Are you sure that you don’t want to wear something more comfortable?”

The reason I choose to wear dresses is because I’m comfortable in them. Do you voluntarily wear uncomfortable clothes? I didn’t think so.

2. “Be careful when you bend down. Everyone’s going to see your underwear.”

Fun fact: I wear shorts or spandex under my dresses. Nobody is going to see anything other than fabric that goes down to my thighs. And if they do happen to see my underwear, who cares? My underwear is cute!

3. “Wait, you went swimming in a dress?”

We forgot my swimsuit at the hotel, and we were only spending one day at the beach in California. So, yeah. I swam in my dress.

4. “Aren’t you cold in that dress?”

Kind of? But I’ll just put on a coat and some gloves and be fine.

5. “It’s not ladylike to do [insert any activity here] in a dress.”

Who the hell decides what’s ladylike and what isn’t? As far as I’m concerned, I’m a lady, and I like doing things in dresses.

6. “That dress is kind of short. You may want to put on some tights.”

Nah, I’m good. My legs are long, and I’m going to show them off. Sorry you’re so uncomfortable with my skin.

7. “You can’t play night games at camp wearing a dress!”

OK, so my camp growing up was incredibly sexist and repressive, but I can’t tell you how many counselors and coworkers told me that I shouldn’t wear a dress to play night games.

8. “Wow! I’m really surprised that you did that while wearing a dress!”

Why? I do everything else in a dress. Why would you think that this activity would be any different?

9. “I wanted to that activity, but I was wearing a dress, so I couldn’t.”

Yes, you can! You’re putting the restriction on yourself. If you want to do something while wearing a dress, do it. Stop thinking about what everyone else thinks, and just do it. Don’t you dare miss out on something fun because you’re too caught up in your own restrictions.

10. “Are you OK? Do you need help? Did you get hurt?”

I don’t know what it is about me wearing a dress, but it seems like everyone thinks that I’m this fragile little girl whenever I wear them. Like because I’m wearing something feminine I can’t also be a strong, badass woman. FYI: You can do both.

So, the next time you decide to ask me about my wardrobe choice, just remember that Mulan saved China while wearing a freaking dress.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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Spring into finals week (and the summer) by "cleaning up" your playlist


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Genre: Electronic/Alternative

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“Harmony Hall” by Vampire Weekend 

Genre: Alternative/Indie Pop

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“Ready to Let Go” by Cage the Elephant 

Genre: Alternative/Alternative Rock

So many great artists are (finally) releasing new albums this year, and Cage the Elephant falls into this category. This track is an absolute banger and doesn't stray much from the band's style in that it includes a lot of loud guitar and dynamic vocals. Like Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant has been around since the early 2000s, and I highly recommend checking out some of their earlier work as well (big fan of their most recent album, actually!)

“Apple Orchard” by Beach House 

Genre: Indie/Electronic

Beach House is one of my favorite bands of all time, as I find a kind of an ethereal, beautiful sadness in the dreamy style of instrumentalist Alex Scally and lucid vocals of singer Victoria Legrand. This track is from their 2006 self-titled debut and is probably one of my favorite songs they've ever released. The lyrics are poetic and perfect for the post-finals enjoyment of spring weather, in that they preach relaxation and restfulness, and the song's electronic rhythms echo the essence of spring as well. If you like this song, then I highly recommend checking out the band's other albums as well (Depression Cherry is one of my favorite albums of all time).

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Genre: 60s Pop

No spring playlist is complete without a little Simon & Garfunkel! This song is a classic, its timeless, poetic lyrics capturing the epitome of the coming of spring and all its glory. In fact, I consider the entire album (entitled Sound of Silence) to be perfect for the pleasantness and feelings of renewal/natural revitalization associated with the coming months, so be sure to give it a listen if you haven't heard it before!

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