For some reason, we as women think that we deserve a decent guy.

Okay... Decent means average, or satisfactory, gets the job done. Decent isn't necessarily a bad thing, but the thing is, God's love for us isn't just "decent."

His love for us is E X T R A V A G A N T.

Yet somehow, we as girls and women fall prey to the lies that we don't deserve that extravagant kind of love. And same for guys - we tend to lower what we think is best for us.

I know that before I really started following Jesus, I thought I didn't deserve much, and basically was drawn to toxic relationships because I didn't know my worth as a daughter of the King. With a lot of maturities, walking with Jesus, and sadly a lot of heartaches, I started to discover my worth and what God really had for me. He began to reveal vision for my singleness as well as His plans for marriage for His children.

Basically, I thought my worth was 25 cent coffee, but what Jesus had for me was the best cup of coffee. (Coffee somehow always tends to be an analogy I use, maybe that means it's an addiction, I'm working on it, I promise). The last few months I've heard friends long for these boys who don't see the woman that they have in front of them and it's honestly broken my heart because when Jesus reveals the worth of His people to you, you start to see what the Father has in store for them.

Let me tell you - it's not just a "decent" guy. Not just a guy who talks about Jesus, but doesn't ever talk to Him, but a man of God who seeks Jesus daily. Not just a guy who holds pride in his heart, but a man of God who lives for humility. Not just a guy who gives you mixed signals, but a man of God who will give you clarity(ps God is a God of clarity- not confusion). Not just a guy who respects your boundaries for a few weeks, but a man of God who will honor and respect your purity until marriage. Not just a guy who sometimes focuses on you and flirts with other girls, but a man of God who will treat you with the love and care you deserve.

A "decent" guy?! No no no! That is not what He has in store for us. First off, if a guy is not investing in his relationship with Jesus - then he is not someone you want pursuing you. This is not a "holier than thou" thing, but we are called to live for Jesus and not the world, and we want someone to challenge us and encourage us to seek Jesus because a relationship should glorify Jesus in every single aspect and facet.

You are worth a man who says yes to Jesus every single morning, and yes, have grace for him when he doesn't hear his alarms, but also you want a man who seeks Jesus every single day and loves Him every single day. If he's not loving Jesus, he's not going to be able to love you selflessly or well. Let's be honest, we suck at loving others well, we are flawed, but thanks to Jesus, we can love others really well, and that's the only river that love will be able to flow from.

Another important thing I wish I knew sooner - it is worth the wait. I would rather wait and avoid unneeded heartbreak than to try and rush into the nearest relationship. Take for instance frozen food, we don't take the lasagna out of the oven before it's done and eat it while it's still icy. That's crazy(and honestly probably not safe), but we wait! Waiting teaches us to trust God and rely on God, and it's a process and yes, trust me, I know it's hard sometimes, but there is beauty in the process.

So sweet sister, you are so loved by God, He sees you. He knows every single part of your heart so well. He knows your dreams and hopes. He loves making breakfast with you. He loves seeing you sing at the top of your lungs in your car. He loves YOU. You are so deeply loved by God, and THAT is the kind of love you deserve from a man. Not just a "decent" love, but an extravagant love, is what you deserve, and what you were made for.