Once something bad happens, do you just let it beat you into submission? Do you just think that the bad is just an unbeatable force? Do you think that one day you'll be strong enough to handle any and everything bad thing that comes your way? There is no set strength to handle all of the bad you encounter, and there is no good in letting it beat you until you quit.

Most of us want good and seek it out, but the bad gets to us and stops us from wanting good or whatever we really want. We try to bury what we really want in our minds under whatever we can and act like it was never there. Everyone wants things like love, friends that turn into family, family, fun, experiencing life, and learning. Once any of that is threatened or hurt in some way then we begin to retreat into ourselves to deal with the pain. There are different defense mechanisms we go through, but the worst one is that we push it aside in our minds. The problem with that is if we do that then it is only a matter of time before our mind begins to crash because of all that pain and suffering we wanted to avoid. We give up on things like having a real connection with others and by a real connection I mean that you and this person see eye to eye, that you both are similar enough to see yourself in them, but different enough to learn and see things from their reality. People tend to get scared of being vulnerable or open to a person and I get it because it is a scary feeling to give someone part of you. You wonder if and when you'll lose part of yourself and how it will happen. The fear of that pain that can come at any point in time in your life because it is out of your control. All you are doing is hanging off the ledge with that person or those people holding your hands lifting you up and hoping they do not drop you. You cannot let that fear take you over to the point that you just slam the door in the face of whoever wants to come knock on your door.

Many of us need to start believe that on the other side of that bad thing, theres a new you. On the other side of that fear, that bad thing that happened to you is a more mature you. Once you go through that problem head on then you'll see that you are stronger than you believed yourself to be. You are better than the fear, the darkness, and the bad. Most of these things are just in the mind anyway, and you'll see that once you start looking inward. Start being mindful and see your life start to slowly change for the better. There is hope, you just have to believe in it.