Yes, I Am An Outgoing Introvert

Yes, I Am An Outgoing Introvert

"How are you always so happy?"

I have always been obsessed with personality quizzes since middle school and I would always end up confused because on one end, the personality quiz result would tell me that I am energetic and outgoing while others would tell me that I am shy and reserved. Now that I am older, I have finally realized that when given an amount of time by myself, I "recharge" and portray myself as "bubbly" and "energetic". I also have anxiety (which I will write about another time) which makes it interesting when I inform people about needing alone time in order to feel comfortable around people. They often say things like "But you are always so happy!" (Note: Just because someone is an introvert, does not mean they are not happy...) I am usually content conversing with others, but every once and awhile I can be perceived as "distant" if not given alone time.

I can manage being around people for a certain amount of time and then I become drained. I would not consider myself to be the type of introvert where I need hours of alone time, but I do need at least a half an hour to feel "sane". That is why I am exhausted when I arrive at home from a long day of work. The place where I work is a great but my job consists of interacting with different types of people every time I work. People will go out of their to ask me questions because that is what I am there for, yet it is tiring to put a smile on my face after a surplus of hours of answering the same questions over and over again.

While I do come from a big family on my dad's and mom's side, one would envision someone like me to be even more outgoing but the reality is I can only do so much as an introvert. Petty questions can get old fast; I like to converse about subjects with deeper meanings than casual conversations. I do enjoy a good pun or joke, but at the end of the day I love discussing about things that are more on a personal level rather than "casual".

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10 Things I Learned When My Best Friend Got Pregnant In High School

In this world where you can be anything: be a friend (and be a good one).

Life: full of amazing, unforeseen circumstances. How you roll with the punches only reveals your strength.
True friends are like diamonds: bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style." -Nicole Richie

I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

2. No matter how much you want to freak out, remain calm

Getting unexpected news is never easy to hear. If needed, cry. Cry until you cannot anymore. Then, get up and be strong, she needs you. Be flexible (You want to come over to hang out? Right now? No, I'm not in the middle of ten thousand things, come on over). Be available (yes, even for her 3 a.m. insomnia calls just to see "what's up?") "Meaghan, why are you even awake right now?"

3. Radiate positivity. Always. 

This is an emotional time. The LAST thing she needs is someone bringing her down. "No, honey, you're glowing!" "You do not look fat in that bikini!!" "You are rocking that baby bump!" "Oh, that's your the third day in a row you're eating a Sonic burger for lunch? You go girl!"

4. Be ready for all the times: happy, confusing, stressful, sad, (but mostly) exciting

Mixed emotions are so hard, but look for the silver lining. With your support, she will be strong.

"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

7. Something we never knew we needed. 

Some of the best things in life are things we never knew we needed. Who knows where we would be without this sweet face?

"Hudson say Lib. Libby. L-- Come ON!" "CAT!" "Okay, that works too."

8. "Mother knows best" accurate, whether you believe it or not

Turns out, seventeen-year-olds don't know how to plan baby showers. Our moms have been there, done that. They want to be involved just as much as we do, so let them! Listen to their guidance. After all, they're professionals.

9. There will *almost always* be a "better way" of doing something...but, be a cheerleader, not a critic 

This is something many people struggle with in general, but it is not your DNA, it is not your place to be a critic. Let her raise her own baby. You are there to be a friend, not a mentor. ****Unless she's about to name the baby something absolutely terrible -- for the love of that baby, don't let her name that kid something everyone hates.

10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

Life has adapted, but for the better. We grew up, learned, and became stronger. All the while, we stayed friends every step of the way. We still have the same fun and most definitely, the same laughs.

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Home is where the heart is.


I am for sure a homebody, and lately, I have realized how much I appreciate where I come from. Each time I come home, it gets harder for me to leave. Although there are so many things I love about home, I feel like these nine are the most important.

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I can honestly say that I am no cook, but my mom sure is. Whether she is making grilled chicken, spaghetti, or tacos, her meals always taste the best.

2. The simple lifestyle

I usually love filling my schedule with activities and things to do. There is just something special at home that makes me slow down and embrace simplicity. Maybe it is the small town feel of it or the fact that 5 o'clock is not a nightmare, but whatever it is, I fall in love with the simple lifestyle my home offers.

3. Morning coffee

My morning does not start without a hot cup of coffee curled up on the couch at home. Usually, I am joined by my cat Mo, and two dogs, Riley and Lizzie.

4. Sunday strolls around the neighborhood

Whenever I am home, I love going on walks around the neighborhood with my parents. The best kind of walks is when the weather is not too cold, but not too hot.

5. Nights by the fireplace 

A few years ago, my dad built a fireplace in our background. It has been a place where I love to hang out and relax. On the nights that are a little too cold, I love to sit by the fireplace and drink wine and just talk about life.

6. TJ Maxx trips

When you live in a small town, the stores and boutiques are very limited pickings. Sumter finally opened a TJ Maxx and that place has saved me on days where I cannot find anything better to do.

7. Time spent swinging on the front porch

One thing I love to do at home is sit on the front porch and swing.

8. Going Hunting

I am no expert hunter or outdoors-person, but I do love spending an evening in the woods looking for deer. One of my favorite parts about hunting is watching the sun set over the trees that fill our hunting land.

9. My family 

Over the years, I have really come to appreciate how much my family means to me. I love coming home to see my family, and perhaps that is one of the reasons I love home so much.

I don't know about your hometown, but my home is a place where I can escape the craziness and business of my hectic college life. I have come to appreciate home more ever since I went off to college.

I hope by reading this, it makes you think of things you are thankful for your home.

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