Yes, I Am An Outgoing Introvert

Yes, I Am An Outgoing Introvert

"How are you always so happy?"

I have always been obsessed with personality quizzes since middle school and I would always end up confused because on one end, the personality quiz result would tell me that I am energetic and outgoing while others would tell me that I am shy and reserved. Now that I am older, I have finally realized that when given an amount of time by myself, I "recharge" and portray myself as "bubbly" and "energetic". I also have anxiety (which I will write about another time) which makes it interesting when I inform people about needing alone time in order to feel comfortable around people. They often say things like "But you are always so happy!" (Note: Just because someone is an introvert, does not mean they are not happy...) I am usually content conversing with others, but every once and awhile I can be perceived as "distant" if not given alone time.

I can manage being around people for a certain amount of time and then I become drained. I would not consider myself to be the type of introvert where I need hours of alone time, but I do need at least a half an hour to feel "sane". That is why I am exhausted when I arrive at home from a long day of work. The place where I work is a great but my job consists of interacting with different types of people every time I work. People will go out of their to ask me questions because that is what I am there for, yet it is tiring to put a smile on my face after a surplus of hours of answering the same questions over and over again.

While I do come from a big family on my dad's and mom's side, one would envision someone like me to be even more outgoing but the reality is I can only do so much as an introvert. Petty questions can get old fast; I like to converse about subjects with deeper meanings than casual conversations. I do enjoy a good pun or joke, but at the end of the day I love discussing about things that are more on a personal level rather than "casual".

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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A Letter To The High School Senior From The Senior In College

"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it." -Harrison Ford


Dear You,

Right now, you're starting to get nervous. There are so many "last"s you're experiencing: Your last high school football homecoming. Your last homecoming dance. Your last college career day. Your last September in high school. Your last Parent-Teacher conference night. Your heart feels like a hummingbird's wings and your head is crowded with what "first"s you'll experience less than a year from now.

Don't be afraid. While there are so many "last"s you're experiencing now, there are even more great experiences waiting for you on the college campus of your choice, or in that workplace, or in the military. While high school has shaped you up until now and all you've known is 7th period days and raising your hand to ask to go to the bathroom, your life is changing and soon you will be in control of your whole life. But no pressure, right?

The hardest thing to adjust to outside of high school is just how much control you have. Not only can you go to the bathroom use your phone, and eat pretty much whenever you want, but you're responsible for so much more than just yourself now. From now on, your choices will impact not only your day to day life but also the day to day life of those around you. Coworkers, students, family, and friends alike will all be influenced by what you do.

You're so used to pushing yourself to the edge to get as far as you can and you celebrate because it's almost over. But what you may not know is that it's only just beginning. That's why it's more important now than ever that you practice self-care and take care of yourself. You can not pour from an empty glass, and I learned that the hard way.

Don't burn the candle from both ends, as my mom would say. By that, I mean don't take on more than you can handle, even if it feels like you may have to. There is always at least one extra moment in your day during which you can set down everything and just breathe. Take a second to breathe and tell yourself it will all be worth it in the end.

You can do this. If no one has told you lately, I'm telling you this now: I'm proud of you.

Congratulations and keep moving forward.


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