When it comes time in any relationship for things to end there are a lot of wrong ways that people go about it. Now, this primarily applies to online dating or actual dating -- not a long-term relationship. Here are a few ways people say goodbye wrong and how they should say goodbye.
They say NOTHING. The phone goes silent. No more texts. No more calls. No more posts on social media. In fact that seem to have disappeared. On other other hand it is just silent on your end. You see the time stamp saying they were online earlier and the post about the concert they just went to, but yet you have not gotten a single reply to any of your texts -- and you weren't being needy or excessive about it.
When you have been showing interest in someone and been talking everyday for a couple weeks, maybe even gone on a date or two, it is absolutely not OK to drop off the edge of communications. First of all, my mind goes to the worst -- are they dead? Every person, whether they are willing to admit it or not, wants the truth. No one wants to be lied to. If you have found someone else and no longer interested it takes a single text. Even if you receive a response asking questions you are no obligated to respond if you gave a solid reason why you are no longer into the relationship. Never say nothing, always go for the truth.
They LIE. It is some easily explained thing. "My phone died." "I was out of cell range." While all of these are good excuses for maybe a few days it doesn't work for weeks, at least not in this day and age of all consuming media. No one is without their phone for more than maybe 48 hours and that is pushing it for a lot of people.
Don't make up an excuse. Don't lie. Tell the truth because at the end of the day you will feel better and the person you told the truth to will be able to deal with the whole situation better.
They say IT'S ME not you. Ah, the classic example of why any relationship ends. I am not knocking that this is a viable reason to end something, but it is not a good way to go about it.
Explain why you are not able to do a relationship. It doesn't mean you have to give the other person hope. No matter what you say, be nice about it and focus on how you are the one with the problem. Don't just use those four little words without any other explanation.
They say you AREN'T IN THE SAME PLACE right now. Again, viable explanation but still not OK by itself. So you aren't physically in the same place? Emotional? Location? Academically? Career? There are tons of different areas that people can differ so be specific.
Tell them what you want in a relationship and that right now that isn't what you have. It is OK to go in different directions. Who knows, maybe someday you will be in the same place and can try again.
Girls and boys want an explanation and the truth. Don't place blame. Don't be cruel. Be human beings who respect one another.
