Younger self:
I wish I could tell you that things will be perfect for you but, in reality, life is not going to be easy, my darling. There will come a day when you encounter a struggle that is bigger than yourself and it may seem like the life you created is crumbling down -- but know that you will get through it.
Your vulnerable heart will be broken several times. Not just by a boy but also by people you consider to be your closest friends, family members, and even random strangers. Some will take advantage of your kind soul and, unfortunately, you will do the same in return. Promises will be broken. The ones you love most will let you down. You will let yourself down. Friendships will come and go, but it won’t be all for naught. Each relationship will open your eyes to who you truly want to be and more importantly, who you do not want to be.
I can't promise that circumstances won't be excruciating at times. Each hardship will change you in a different way. The good news is that you will come to know the meaning of true joy through all of it. These experiences are going to help you on the journey to becoming the woman you need to be. Whatever you do, do not give up hope.
In order to fully open your heart to someone else, you must first know that you deserve to be loved passionately. You’ll swear your entire life that you never want to get married, or have children, until the day you meet the one and then all bets will be off. You won’t recognize it at first, but this man will be the best friend you’ll ever have. He’s going to be the ketchup to your French fry. He will love you through all of your crazy, drunken, careless endeavors because he knows who you truly are deep down inside. It won’t be easy; you’ll both make mistakes. Together you will learn the true meaning of unconditional love.
The most important piece of advice I can offer you is to be kind to yourself. Self-acceptance is going to be the key to your happiness. Never let anyone treat you as if you don’t deserve that. Every broken promise, every heartache, every tear will be worth it in the end.
