To Everyone Who Has Never Had A Valentine, I Understand

To Everyone Who Has Never Had A Valentine, I Understand

Life, unfortunately, is not a Hallmark movie...


Dear beautiful person,

I feel you.

I am the girl who has never had a Valentine, been kissed under the mistletoe, or had a midnight kiss of the New Year. I'm a holiday virgin you may say. It's rough, I know, but it's also gonna be okay.

It sounds cheesy and I know you've heard it a million times, but the right person is out there somewhere. Every holiday is an excuse to mope around because you're single and ready to mingle, but there's nobody in your life at the moment to mingle with. That or they're completely oblivious to your feelings.

You may have pretty much, tried everything from joining 5 dating websites including Tinder to dying your hair a different color but nothing seems to work. And it sucks.

I really wish I could tell you that this Valentine's day, "The One" is going to sweep you off your feet and you're going to ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after, but I can't. I'm not a psychic, which is another thing you may have tried... I won't tell anyone.

I am here to tell you though, stop using holidays as an excuse to mope around. There are so many better things to do! As for me, I curl up on the couch and spend Valentine's day with three of my favorite things: hot cocoa, cookies, and the Winchester brothers.

If you don't want to feel lonely there's always friends and family. Give them a call or a visit. Friends and family make everything better. Have a Galentines day! It'll be fun! And if you're the "single friend" then celebrate Galentines day after the 14th when chocolate is 50% off!!

And for the rest of the holidays, I know it flipping sucks that your family is going to ask a bazillion times if you're seeing anybody, but that's what family does! It's only because they care, trust me.

Life, unfortunately, is not a Hallmark movie. You may never have a meet-cute or have your Christmas spirit reinstated by a hot prince or lumberjack, but I do believe in love.

I believe in happily ever after. And it's really hard to keep optimistic, I haven't had a date for, gosh, nearing 5 years now. And I know girls who are nearing graduation and have never had a single significant other.

Waiting really, REALLY, sucks. But, just think how great it's going to be when that special someone does come along. Think about how epic it's going to be when that person you think is attractive, notices you back.

That day will come. Whether it's this Valentine's day or years from now. It's going to happen. So keep positive. Be yourself. Be confident.

It's so important to keep or even work on gaining self-confidence. Once you love yourself, that certain someone might just fall in love with you too.

I wish everyone out there the best of luck in their romantic endeavors. Who knows, maybe this year will be your lucky year.

Sincerely, a cheesy romantic gal

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Being Ugly

What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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