You probably have seen me before; I'm the tall dude at the back of dance team performances. You know, the one messing up all the moves, but looking fly while doing it.
Well, I have some insight for all the bros at frat parties who are wondering why a goofy dude like me gets to be in the center of 30 attractive girls in the middle of the dance floor. Yeah, I see you all watching from the perimeter like sharks circling fish, seeing if you can snag one of the strays gone too far from the school.
The first thing to understand is that when packs of women go out to dance, their first priority is usually just that, to dance and have fun. Just because a woman is dancing in a way that seems provocative doesn't mean they are doing it for you or anyone else besides themselves. Hell, if women thought that every time I popped, locked and dropped it on the floor was an invitation to be touched, I wouldn't be so lonely! So don't make assumptions when you see a woman dancing.
Second, if you do find yourself in a situation where a woman might be eyeing you from across the dance floor, or maybe a girl is backing her way up your alley, the best possible thing that you can do is ask if she would want to dance with you. It is just that simple. Otherwise, me and the other male dancers are going to come around and start grinding on you without asking. Yeah, that doesn't sound so pleasing, now does it? What can I say, we protect our own.
Third, one dance doesn't mean you are obligated for a second dance. Maybe that song just needed to be shared with another person. Maybe you were close to the chips so she used you as a way to be close to the food after the song. Whatever the reason, you are not in charge of how many times a woman will dance with you.
Finally, my last tip to you guys is take some dance lessons. I mean for the love of all that is groovy, your part in dancing with a girl isn't to be a stripper pole. Don't just stand there! Move your hips and I don't mean the entire lower half of your body, I mean just your hips. Dancing with anyone is a conversation between your body and theirs. Follow their movements; if they get lower so do you, or if they switch up the tempo try to keep up!
Hopefully this knowledge will allow you to get the strength to ask that pretty girl to dance. Maybe you might even join me in the middle of the floor surrounded by women. Maybe you will still be that shark, prowling the peripherals. Whatever you choose, just remember to bust a move!
