One thing I can’t stand is a sore loser.

When playing any sort of game or competitive activity, there will always be winners or losers. The folks who win are sometimes confident and sometimes unsure of themselves. But at the end of the day, they have the skill it takes to win. When playing a mean game of UNO, for example, I’ve found the losers always complain about the “House Rules,” insisting the game was changed.

They might accuse others of cheating or get downright upset and storm off downstairs to cool down. It’s all in good fun for sure, and soon enough the losers will suck it up and agree to another round. Or they will reconcile with the winning individual or team, agreeing to change the activity to something more passive. And you know what?

Dating is the same way.

Every time I hear a woman say, “I’m tired of modern dating,” I think of a sore loser.

You have Whiny Whitney who always plays by the rules and gets mad when she even suspects of foul play. Whiny Whitney would rather complain about how the rules have “changed” instead of learning the House Rules more clearly. There are some gaps in what she understands about dating (and men for that matter), but it’s much easier to complain about how childish men are than really *get* the culture around her. It’s hard to feel sorry for someone who already pities themselves and their situation so much.

And then there's "Bragging Briana" who won't stop talking about how men adore her.

This is the type who will start a game of Spades with the meanest trash talk only to get embarrassed later. The sad part about women like this is perhaps they do find men that like them…but it’s rarely the men they want. They have men lined up in their phone like dominoes but they can’t manage to find and keep a relationship with a quality man. This is the type of woman I truly feel bad for: all these men in her phone but how many of them are quality partners with real potential? I’d rather have 2 good options than 5 subpar boy-toys to lord over others. Smdh.

Everyone loves a good "Time-Out Tina."

The funny thing about Tina is that she’s the one who will either tap out first because she’s “bored” with the game OR she’s real quick to change the game to something she feels suits her more. In the dating world, plenty of women online are Tina –they write an incessant amount of articles justifying their decision to “work on themselves” as if they can’t do that and date to win. At the same time. They wear out easily and don’t have the stamina to go after what they want. So they take themselves out of the game or claim “no one is interesting.” There’s nothing worse than a woman who can’t be honest with herself or others.

The problem with these women isn’t that they are natural born losers.

They just lack the skill to win. Sometimes they act like they don’t know what it means to win. And sometimes they claim men are just dogs who refuse to date properly. But if that’s truly the case, why are so many women announcing their engagements when you log into Facebook? Why is there an endless supply of couples and newlyweds at local restaurants? Are they the exception or the rule?

Let’s be honest for once – are you tired of “modern dating” or do you lack competency when dating men? Chances are, you never learned how to interact with men in the first place. Men aren’t a different species, but they do process information differently. To get the relationships you desire, you need to understand the other half of the equation.

Millennials aren’t ruining modern dating for you. You’re doing a great job of that already.