Last week, Politico held their fourth annual Women Rule summit that included conversation on women in Congress, women on the campaign trail and discussion with women currently in the White House with President Obama. During their "Women on the Trail" section, keynote speaker Kellyanne Conway addressed her future role with advising President-elect Donald Trump. "My children are twelve, twelve, eight and seven, which is bad idea, bad idea, bad idea, bad idea for mom going inside," Conway said about her future in Trump's White House. Conway then added, in reference to male colleagues questioning why she would not work in the White House, "The question is would you want your wife to. Would you want the mother of your children to? You really see their entire visage change. It's like, oh, no, they wouldn't want their wife to take that job."
Conway is the first Republican woman to run a presidential campaign, which speaks levels of strength, determination and dedication for a woman to break such a glass ceiling. However, her overall figure for breaking barriers is now overshadowed with these words she has spoken. Though Conway can be viewed as a modern-day matriarch, she is still almost 100 years behind in terms of women (and mothers) working to provide for their household. It is important to note that Conway did not say that women should deny a job such as that in order to raise a family, but she did essentially say that the power in the house still belongs to the man and that a husband is still the deciding factor of how his wife should live her life. To believe that a woman's dreams and goals in life should be set to the side for the sake of children and the sanctity of marriage is extremely asinine considering how far women's rights have come and how many women fought to be able to work.
I am not saying that children do not come first as a priority, but it seems as though people forget that in a marriage with kids, there is more than one parent. Even in the wording of what Conway asked to men, "Would you want the mother of your children to," she is depreciating mothers and implying that children are their fathers offspring alone. However, society preaches to women that they are the ones who hold responsibility for raising children. So, why must a woman who has an amazing opportunity in front of her dismiss it because her husband does not want to set aside his pride and ego to take on the role of a father?
If a man cannot step up and realize that the woman he loves is trying to pursue what she has worked so diligently for, then as a woman, you do not need him. Every woman is superwoman, and until a man is capable of giving birth to a child and bringing life into the world with his own body, he has no ability to dictate how his wife chooses to make her living. Jamie Smith, who served as deputy White House press secretary with President Obama, can vouch that having a child and being successful is 100 percent possible—and she did not need a man to decide for her that this job was possible.
There is no reason in this day and age that a woman's husband needs to decide what is right and what is not right for his wife to do. If he cannot step up to the plate and be a parent just as much as a woman is expected to, then he truly is not the type of man you want your kids to look up to. To put your kids first, you need to be able to show them that they can do anything that they put their minds to and that nobody can ever stop them from obtaining every dream and goal that they have set for themselves. Daughters need this especially, with a society that still teaches them that they need approval from a man before they make decisions for themselves, they need a mother who is not afraid to stand up and show them that a man does not decide your life, you decide your life.