Back in the day, every woman took her husband's last name because it was the law and the man was the provider. The end of 2017 is approaching and people are still under the assumption that it's the law that a woman must change her last name when she gets married.
There is nothing wrong with women keeping their last names or taking their husband's names.
There is no right or wrong answer. No need to feel discouraged at all about whether you want to change your last name or not. I'm not someone who gets too excited about last name changes.
1. For starters, I was born with the name
I was born into this family and raised by them.
2. I see myself as a person with my own history, not a damsel in distress who needs to be saved from her surname
I am born a Coughlin, have my history, still going through my own history, creating who I am, and don't need saving. I got this handled.
3. It feels like I'm discrediting my family
My parents raised me well, support me, and are my rocks. If I got married, I would hate to take his last name since my parents' were the ones who raised me to be who I am, were here through my crucial moments, and put up with my crap.
4. There's no law
You can change or keep your last name. Don't let the assumption of an "existing law" hold you back from keeping your identity. If you want to take your husband's name, take it. If you want to keep your last name, keep it.
5. Zero time for paperwork
Change your last name on your bank account, insurances, driver's license, passport, even signature. I'm too lazy for paperwork anywhere. Besides, I think my signature is fine.
6. My last name will be on all of my diplomas
What's really the point in changing it if I'm graduating as a Coughlin?
7. I'm going to build a career on that name
I know for sure everyone will refer to me as my last name at work and I don't want any confusion mixed up along with my future husband's last name.
8. I don't think it's necessary to change my identity
I was born a Coughlin, went to school as a Coughlin, graduated as a Coughlin, and will enter the working force as a Coughlin.
9. Building a life together is more important, but exciting than changing my last name
One of the most important things about marriage is building a life together and working as a team. I feel like if a couple worries too much about last name changes, they would most likely forget what are more important than them.
