The ending of a relationship can be hard, and it often requires large quantities of romantic movies, ice cream, and tears. But there is also inevitable competition. It doesn't matter who broke up with who, whether you're still friendly towards each other or you're plotting each other's demise. What matters is who's doing better afterward.
1. You delete their number from your phone
You don't need it anymore.
2. You started working out more.
Sure, you went through the Ben & Jerry's, crying while watching The Notebook faze. Now you're done with that (okay maybe not, but at least you're not doing it all the time). You're hitting the gym to work out all that anger and sadness. And, you're getting a revenge body out of it. You're done feeling sad over the breakup, and you're starting to feel good about yourself, inside and out.
3. Your life is going well.
Whether it's a promotion at work or good grades at school, your life is going well. The opportunities seem to be flooding in now that your ex is out of the picture.
4. You're killing it on social media.
Where else is better to show off your new attitude? Social Media, of course. It may be vain, but this is the time to be vain without apologies. While your ex is posting cryptic tweets and captions of sad song lyrics, you're posting hot photos living your best life - doing your thing, having fun with your friends, looking like a million bucks.
5. You're getting out there and moving on.
You've started going on dates, and you're not ready to settle. Now you're crushing on and thinking about new people, not your ex.
6. You throw out everything that reminds you of them.
You completely cleanse yourself and your home from any reminders of your ex, including pictures, sweaters, and trinkets from your time together.
7. You run into them looking fabulous.
Everyone's worst nightmare is running into their ex, especially when you look less than great. But when you actually run into your ex, you happen to look great. Meanwhile, they look like a mess, alone, sad drinking at some bar. It may sound mean, but it's satisfying. They'll be left wondering how they lost you and you'll be left wondering how you ever cried over them. Bonus points if you're with a (hot) date.
8. They text or call you.
9. You don't go running back to them.
If your Ex tells you they miss you and wants you back, the worse thing you can do is go back to them. You're better than them now.
10. You genuinely don't care about them anymore.
You'll know you've "won" the breakup when you really stop caring about them. You don't even think badly of them anymore. You're doing all of this for yourself.
