Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Here is five pieces of helpful hints that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018.
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Change is good, right? It is necessary for growth, removing negativity and applying positive transformation in your life. Change forces us to see necessary improvement in our lives. Whether we like it or not, change comes when we least expect it to. 2017 for me, was the year of unwanted change. I had to reevaluate many aspects of my life and force myself to adapt to changing tides. While this may seem like an interruption and disturbance in our lives, evolving helps us understand and unfold into the people we desire to be.

If you’re like me, maybe 2017 wasn’t the easiest year for you. But nothing of substance comes from easiness. So instead of focusing on how 2018 is going to be perfect, (new year, new you am I right?) focus on how you can adapt to change that 2018 will bring into your life and how what you learned from 2017 has helped you become an improvement of your past self.

Here are 5 pieces of helpful hints (sorry refusing to call them resolutions) that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018:

1. When change comes, roll with it

You can’t always explain why things happen. You can’t always predict the future. In my own experience, as being someone that likes to program the future, I have learned it is much easier to go with the flow. Everything can’t be perfect. You can’t plan the perfect 21st birthday for your best friend without some balloons popping. You can’t always decide what your next step in life is going to be right here, right now. You can’t plan at 3:00 what the two-year-old twins you babysit for are going to eat at dinner without change coming into play (or a few handfuls of food dumped on the ground). Whatever the case might be, accept and expect change to come into your life and go with the flow.

2. Accept that people change and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Hearts change. Friendships change. Feelings change. You can’t keep looking into the past and seeing someone for what they were. Sometimes people grow up. Sometimes other aspects of their life become more important. There’s nothing you can do about this other than wishing them the best. Friends that change will always be in your heart, but sometimes the change is what may tear you apart. Don’t resent them for that. Take the bits and memories of them with you, thanking them for the parts of both your lives that were intertwined together.

3. Accept that you change too

You may prioritize parts of your life more than you used to. Maybe right now you’re really focused on school, job or your friends. Maybe you’re really focused on a relationship or maybe a new passion has taken over your life. If your priorities change, that is okay too. Realize that balance is important and nothing is everlasting. Your new boo may be the focus of your interests now, but don’t forget your friends. You might have gotten really obsessed with photography, but don’t cut out your Chemistry homework because of it. Balance your change and the people, passions and you, personally, will be more grateful for your change.

4. Reflect on Change

How has change in 2017 helped you grow? Maybe you can make more decisions for yourself because the people you thought were there for you weren’t. Maybe a death in the family makes you cherish your loved ones more. If you reflect on the past and retain a better understanding of the changes in your life, the more secure with the change you will be.

5. See Change as Good

Just like the cycle of the seasons, change is a part of life. Change brings together risk, growth, and movement in life. Remaining static and safe may seem like the best option at times, but this isn’t the case. Remember a time that you took a risk, made the move, took a chance and think about what you learned. Would your life be the same if you didn’t date that guy, rejected the job that you thought wasn’t for you, or didn’t go out that Tuesday night when you met your best friend and future roommate? A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what a ship is built for. You can’t evolve if your safe and comfortable, so accept that change is inevitable and adapt to 2018 with your head held high

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1. "Can I wear your shirt out tonight?"

2. "Does my hair look greasy?"

3. "We should probably clean tomorrow..."

4. "What should I caption this??"

5. "Is it bad if I text ____ first??"

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14. "I think I'm broke."

15. "What do I respond to this?"

16. "Let's have a movie night."

17. "Why are we so weird?"

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20. "Do I look fat in this?"

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29. "I need coffee."

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35. "Guys I swear I don't like him anymore."

36."Can I borrow a pencil?"

37. "I need to get my life together...."

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To My High School Senior Self, With The Reassurance She Never Got

If only we could turn back time and just reassure ourselves that it will all be OK.

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Dear Pre-Graduate Francesca,

This is it. You're graduating high school this week, and it all feels like it really isn't happening and that these past four years have really gone by in a blink of an eye. Well, that feeling is going to linger on graduation day and it is going to be the one time in your life that you actually feel like the moments are playing like a dream right before your eyes. You will cry while your sister does your hair ("I don't know why I'm crying right now, I think it's just hitting me all at once") and immediately regret not getting that spray tan to match your outfit. You'll feel great anyways, though, and you'll be super happy being around your friends that day, too.

Speaking of friends, you do not have to worry about your number one concern for college AT ALL. You're going to remain close with everyone you want to and even get closer with some of them. Some friends you won't see as much anymore but will definitely talk to them and meet up once in a while, and that is all that matters. You may even distance yourself from some of them with good purpose but even then things are awesome between you and them, and you even reconnect with an old bestie that you realize you can never live life without.

As you know, high school taught you to live in the moment because it all goes by so fast. Right now, I cannot believe my freshman year of college is already over. Your brain will start to think in "semester mode" rather than a 10-month school year calendar, and that comes along with looking at time from a college perspective. You don't even look at the date every day as much as you used to, but you really want to start because time seems to be going by faster now.

Here are some confessions I'm going to tell you to ease your worries: no you didn't go to a college party, you have made some friends you see keeping in touch with in the upcoming years, you're finding your place in different clubs and activities, you are in the right major and you will still have music in your academics somehow. You've had plenty of freak outs throughout the school year (as expected) and had your fair share of good and bad professors already. And as much as you wanted the spring semester to end, you already kind of miss it while writing this.

As much as you worry about it and everything else, you are right where you need to be at MSU. You may second-guess yourself every now and then about it, but you can't picture yourself anywhere else. You have decided to take musical theater as a minor, and you've never felt more excited about school than this. You're even considering drama school as a post-grad, so who knows what exciting things the future has in store?

I wish I could tell you to take in every last bit of high school. I wish I could tell you to forget about this crush you have now because it's not all you hoped it would be and you're going to feel something amazing down the line that you never have before. I wish I could tell you that you'll miss seeing all your friends every day more than anything, and to learn to appreciate that now. I wish I could tell you that you're going to go through some of the most insane and wonderful experiences you have ever gone through in your life within the next twelve months and that you're going to grow more than ever before. I wish I could tell you that you're not going to be able to imagine life as it were before, because you have gotten so close with certain people and you've experienced too much to ever want go back to how it all used to be. I wish I could tell you a lot of things, but that isn't how time- or life, for that matter- works.

As much as you'd hate to admit it, you'll miss LHS and your fellow classmates. You'll always wish you had a videotape of everything that has happened these past four years to look back on- good and bad. At least you have photographs, written letters, Snapchat memories, your friends and your recollections to help you out in the meantime.

All in all, you are going to be more than OK within a year's time. You'll still be overthinking every little detail about everything in your life, but you will still have your best friends and family to support you through it all. You're still you, Cesc, but becoming the best version of yourself each and every day.

High school was quite an adventure, but your next one is already turning out to be something else. Your graduation cap didn't let you down with that one — trust me. Congratulations!

Sincerely,

Content College You :)

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