Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Here is five pieces of helpful hints that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018.

Change is good, right? It is necessary for growth, removing negativity and applying positive transformation in your life. Change forces us to see necessary improvement in our lives. Whether we like it or not, change comes when we least expect it to. 2017 for me, was the year of unwanted change. I had to reevaluate many aspects of my life and force myself to adapt to changing tides. While this may seem like an interruption and disturbance in our lives, evolving helps us understand and unfold into the people we desire to be.

If you’re like me, maybe 2017 wasn’t the easiest year for you. But nothing of substance comes from easiness. So instead of focusing on how 2018 is going to be perfect, (new year, new you am I right?) focus on how you can adapt to change that 2018 will bring into your life and how what you learned from 2017 has helped you become an improvement of your past self.

Here are 5 pieces of helpful hints (sorry refusing to call them resolutions) that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018:

1. When change comes, roll with it

You can’t always explain why things happen. You can’t always predict the future. In my own experience, as being someone that likes to program the future, I have learned it is much easier to go with the flow. Everything can’t be perfect. You can’t plan the perfect 21st birthday for your best friend without some balloons popping. You can’t always decide what your next step in life is going to be right here, right now. You can’t plan at 3:00 what the two-year-old twins you babysit for are going to eat at dinner without change coming into play (or a few handfuls of food dumped on the ground). Whatever the case might be, accept and expect change to come into your life and go with the flow.

2. Accept that people change and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Hearts change. Friendships change. Feelings change. You can’t keep looking into the past and seeing someone for what they were. Sometimes people grow up. Sometimes other aspects of their life become more important. There’s nothing you can do about this other than wishing them the best. Friends that change will always be in your heart, but sometimes the change is what may tear you apart. Don’t resent them for that. Take the bits and memories of them with you, thanking them for the parts of both your lives that were intertwined together.

3. Accept that you change too

You may prioritize parts of your life more than you used to. Maybe right now you’re really focused on school, job or your friends. Maybe you’re really focused on a relationship or maybe a new passion has taken over your life. If your priorities change, that is okay too. Realize that balance is important and nothing is everlasting. Your new boo may be the focus of your interests now, but don’t forget your friends. You might have gotten really obsessed with photography, but don’t cut out your Chemistry homework because of it. Balance your change and the people, passions and you, personally, will be more grateful for your change.

4. Reflect on Change

How has change in 2017 helped you grow? Maybe you can make more decisions for yourself because the people you thought were there for you weren’t. Maybe a death in the family makes you cherish your loved ones more. If you reflect on the past and retain a better understanding of the changes in your life, the more secure with the change you will be.

5. See Change as Good

Just like the cycle of the seasons, change is a part of life. Change brings together risk, growth, and movement in life. Remaining static and safe may seem like the best option at times, but this isn’t the case. Remember a time that you took a risk, made the move, took a chance and think about what you learned. Would your life be the same if you didn’t date that guy, rejected the job that you thought wasn’t for you, or didn’t go out that Tuesday night when you met your best friend and future roommate? A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what a ship is built for. You can’t evolve if your safe and comfortable, so accept that change is inevitable and adapt to 2018 with your head held high

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10 Thoughts A College Senior Will Have In An All-Freshman Class

Why do they look 25 and I look 12?

Being 22 and sitting next to 18 year olds is an interesting feeling when it comes to being in a freshman level class. While you're questioning your sanity, so are the little freshman around you as they ask you what you are even doing there. Here is a list of 10 things a college senior thinks to themselves as they sit in a sea of freshman.

1. What am I doing here?

Still not sure why I chose to take this class.

2. Why did I wait this long to take this class?

Why didn't i just take this class freshman year like a normal student? Oh yeah, procrastination.

3. Why does my advisor hate me?

Why didn't my advisor tell me I needed this class to graduate? Do they really hate me that much? LMK

4. Is my TA the same age as me?

I'd bet $10 my teaching assistant and I are the same age. Hell, I might even be older.

5. Why do the freshman look scared of me?

When they look like you like you have 9 heads or snakes for hair.

6. Why do these freshman look older than me?

Why do I look 12 and they look 25?

7. If I don’t get an A, I’ll cry.

I'm a senior taking a 1,000 level class. If I cant pass this class i needed to drop out like yesterday.

8. I need a drink.

I need a drink and guess what i'm the only one who can legally have a drink in the room.

9. I can’t even think the boys in my class are cute because they're so young.

The fact that there is a 4 year age difference is like me dating my little brother and that's just weird.

10. This is the only class keeping me from graduating; let’s ride.

Maybe i'll just pack wine in my swell bottle to make it through the year. Graduation here I come.

These are thoughts I have everyday as i sit in my freshman baby biology class. Two weeks down, a hell of a lot more to go. Wish me luck people.

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3 Concrete Ways to Combat Senioritis

Senior year doesn't have to be a struggle.

The last semester of your undergrad degree: You've just wrapped up your graduate school application, been to a few great New Year's Eve parties and the first week of classes is one week away. The desire to care is present, but the motivation is lagging behind a bit. Your dog and the comfort of your layers of blankets in your bed in the arctic weather are making that all seem a bit insignificant, and far away.

"5 days is a long time", you tell yourself.

But you know this is a clever lie. Just one month ago you were telling yourself there was merely one week left before break, now you're telling yourself the reverse. So, invariably, you fling the sheets off yourself and start off your day. RxR is important, but what's more important is remembering your goals, and ultimately why you started off this undergraduate degree to begin with, and why it is incredibly important to not underestimate this last semester even if you are taking a few required lower level courses you stashed away for your last semester (like me). One year from this point, you will likely be employed or taking graduate level courses and remembering fondly the long, luxurious breaks you used to get in your undergraduate time. Another thought that justifies a lax approach in your last semester. But also a fair point.

In this article, I understand that many students face different battles their last semester: Some are trying to stave off complete apathy for one reason or another, others have one more semester to get their ducks in a row and finish strong. In either case, you're likely not in the group that has decided to take the philosophy of "D for Diploma" their last semester, nor the group that isn't even concerned with lack of motivation (you know the type). So with that being said, here are some surefire ways to keep your motivation solid your last semester!

1. Keep a countdown to the last day of graduation.

This is a great approach because it is continuously reinforcing and a constant reminder of how close you are to being done and onto the next step in your life. If you feel complacency setting in, looking at a countdown chart can be just the boost you need. You can create mini countdowns that make time periods into manageable chunks that can be easily conquered, such as one to midterms, and then one to finals. For most effective use, place somewhere that you see frequently on a daily basis and keep it updated! The pros of this approach are that is works great for people who know their next step or are highly motivated to graduate and move on from the undergrad period of their life. It's also instantly reinforcing and combats distracting or negative thoughts fairly well. Use time to your advantage.

The cons of this approach are that it can feel like a slog sometimes, where some days feel longer than others. Also if you aren't sure about next steps in life it can be anxiety inducing. So if you have high anxiety about where you're going or what you're going to do next, this may be a double edged sword.

2. Eliminating Bad Habits & Creating/Maintaining Good Habits

Originally, this item was just "keep a checklist" but I realized how this tied in with pretty much every facet of one's daily habits. If you've maintained good habits throughout college, it's important to keep goal setting and maintaining those habits. Making new good habits and eliminating poor habits that can self-sabotage is imperative to staving off the senioritis that settles in. Whether drifting into poor habits is intentional or unintentional, being self aware that it's happening and taking action to fight it is what's important. Every minor thing ties into your overall level of focus and determination, from sleep habits to checklists. Checklists are great because they enable you to focus on a series of steps within larger tasks and create focus. Night time sleep routines are another good habit to form because they signal to your brain that it's time to begin winding down and physiologically your body responds to this and ultimately you'll feel well rested which is a huge portion of maintaining a fighting spirit. Although this point is a bit general, journaling and reflecting on how you can make little changes to create a general snowball effect of good is important in creating/maintaining positive momentum for your last semester. Finish strong!

Some pros to this point are that it makes you reflect on your life and behavior which feeds into action that can give you the motivation you want to have to finish your last semester around at least a 7-8 on the Care Scale. It's an effective approach and helps one see the details that feed into the bigger picture and ultimately feeds into your confidence when telling others you feel "pretty good" about this last semester. The biggest con to this point is that it's a bit vague. In response to this con, I suggest that you focus on finding one good habit you want to maintain that you feel helped you in a previous semester, and to find one bad habit to root out and eliminate.

3. Write Down 3 of Your Proudest Accomplishments

Focusing on what you've accomplished can help shape your expectations for future endeavors. By reminding yourself daily about your self-worth, studies seem to suggest that your brain actually becomes more effective at catching when you make mistakes. Keeping your chin up and being prosocial also has an immense ripple effect not only on yourself but on your closest relationships and ultimately on your community. This tactic serves to strengthen your positive outlook and ultimately makes you less likely to succumb to the apathy of senioritis that encroaches in your final semester.

The pros of this method are that it helps you maintain positivity and self-worth. The cons of this approach are that it doesn't exactly shape any specific direct focus on any "What" throughout your day, but focuses on the "How" you go about your daily activities. For some, finding 3 proud accomplishments in your college career may be difficult, and to this I say that no matter how small, an accomplishment is still an accomplishment. Even something as small as getting out of bed in the morning.

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