Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Why You Should Accept Change In 2018

Here is five pieces of helpful hints that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018.
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Change is good, right? It is necessary for growth, removing negativity and applying positive transformation in your life. Change forces us to see necessary improvement in our lives. Whether we like it or not, change comes when we least expect it to. 2017 for me, was the year of unwanted change. I had to reevaluate many aspects of my life and force myself to adapt to changing tides. While this may seem like an interruption and disturbance in our lives, evolving helps us understand and unfold into the people we desire to be.

If you’re like me, maybe 2017 wasn’t the easiest year for you. But nothing of substance comes from easiness. So instead of focusing on how 2018 is going to be perfect, (new year, new you am I right?) focus on how you can adapt to change that 2018 will bring into your life and how what you learned from 2017 has helped you become an improvement of your past self.

Here are 5 pieces of helpful hints (sorry refusing to call them resolutions) that will help you adapt to changing tides in 2018:

1. When change comes, roll with it

You can’t always explain why things happen. You can’t always predict the future. In my own experience, as being someone that likes to program the future, I have learned it is much easier to go with the flow. Everything can’t be perfect. You can’t plan the perfect 21st birthday for your best friend without some balloons popping. You can’t always decide what your next step in life is going to be right here, right now. You can’t plan at 3:00 what the two-year-old twins you babysit for are going to eat at dinner without change coming into play (or a few handfuls of food dumped on the ground). Whatever the case might be, accept and expect change to come into your life and go with the flow.

2. Accept that people change and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Hearts change. Friendships change. Feelings change. You can’t keep looking into the past and seeing someone for what they were. Sometimes people grow up. Sometimes other aspects of their life become more important. There’s nothing you can do about this other than wishing them the best. Friends that change will always be in your heart, but sometimes the change is what may tear you apart. Don’t resent them for that. Take the bits and memories of them with you, thanking them for the parts of both your lives that were intertwined together.

3. Accept that you change too

You may prioritize parts of your life more than you used to. Maybe right now you’re really focused on school, job or your friends. Maybe you’re really focused on a relationship or maybe a new passion has taken over your life. If your priorities change, that is okay too. Realize that balance is important and nothing is everlasting. Your new boo may be the focus of your interests now, but don’t forget your friends. You might have gotten really obsessed with photography, but don’t cut out your Chemistry homework because of it. Balance your change and the people, passions and you, personally, will be more grateful for your change.

4. Reflect on Change

How has change in 2017 helped you grow? Maybe you can make more decisions for yourself because the people you thought were there for you weren’t. Maybe a death in the family makes you cherish your loved ones more. If you reflect on the past and retain a better understanding of the changes in your life, the more secure with the change you will be.

5. See Change as Good

Just like the cycle of the seasons, change is a part of life. Change brings together risk, growth, and movement in life. Remaining static and safe may seem like the best option at times, but this isn’t the case. Remember a time that you took a risk, made the move, took a chance and think about what you learned. Would your life be the same if you didn’t date that guy, rejected the job that you thought wasn’t for you, or didn’t go out that Tuesday night when you met your best friend and future roommate? A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what a ship is built for. You can’t evolve if your safe and comfortable, so accept that change is inevitable and adapt to 2018 with your head held high

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Dear 2016 me,

I remember exactly how you felt like it was yesterday. You’re trying your best to keep it together, but in reality, you’re barely holding on. Stress is hitting you from all sides and all you want to do is sleep. You’re confused about everything in your life, especially your future.

You’re not sure what you’re going to do after graduation. You aren’t even sure that you’ll make it very far past graduation. I know how you feel and I sympathize with you.

But I’m here to tell you not to give up.

I know that it may seem like your future is going to be full of stress, but that’s not necessarily the case. Sure, the first few months after graduation will be tiring and monotonous as you try to find the energy to apply for jobs while getting your anxiety under control, but that’s just the first few months.

After that, you will find a job that you will love more than anything: substitute teaching. You’ll make connections at work and gain more confidence than you could ever imagine. It will lead you towards a new career path that you had ruled out for many years. But in order to get there, you need to get your bachelor’s degree, so finish your homework and don’t procrastinate on any of your projects.

I know another big concern is the relationships in your life. The fear that you will lose the important people in your life is one that will continue to plague you. That being said, try not to worry too much about that. There are people out there who genuinely care for you, no matter what the voices in your head are saying. Your family especially loves you. You may think that they will be disappointed in the effort you’re providing, but really, they couldn’t be more proud of you!

You’re about to finish college in four years, which is something not many can say. Just know that many people in your life are happy for you.

Of course, this isn’t to say that your problems aren’t worth worrying over. Life is full of stressors and you’ve got a lot hitting you in the face right now. Just try not to worry about them too much in the present moment, okay?

Focus on your studies and whatever else you need to do to graduate. The rest of your worries are problems you can tackle afterward and there will be plenty of time to tackle them after you’ve graduated. Also, try not to lose sleep over these problems. They may suck, but they’re not worth hurting yourself over.

I know you probably won’t listen to me about that last part, but seriously. All of the problems you’re facing right now will not be the problems that will plague you in the future. Worry about one thing at a time, because soon enough you will have everything figured out.

Also, I’m proud of how far you’ve come.

Sincerely,

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