Why I Will Always Be Pro-Choice

Why I Will Always Be Pro-Choice

I will be pro-choice until the only thing that exists is the option for control over my own damn body.

My least favorite time of the year is the spring when protestors flock the Oval and begin to essentially scream about how women belong at home, abortion is murder, and that all college kids are sinners for one reason or another. I could write an entire novel about these statements, but today, I want to talk about why I will always be pro-choice.

My favorite abortion debate story is from Todd Akin. Most of the time, the arguments that are shown from those who are pro-life infuriate me, bring me to tears, or even make me wonder how these people came into power. In 2011, Todd Akin was featured on a Fox News segment about abortion (and don't even get me started on Fox News). When asked if Akin would allow abortion in the situation of rape, he responded with "If it's a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down." That is, in fact, a direct quote from the senator from Missouri. And that's where I think a large issue lies - men who claim to be pro-life are so poorly educated that they have no choice. So rather than ranting and raving about how passionate I am about the woman's right to choose, I'm going to educate you on the abortion debate.

First of all, pro-choice does not mean pro-abortion. Many people who are pro-choice are actually against abortion, but the modern abortion debate isn't about abortion at all. It's about whether or not a woman has control over her own body. I am pro-choice and anti-abortion - personally, I would have a really hard time making that kind of decision. But I would be pissed beyond WORDS if it wasn't an option for me, because what if I was in a situation where I couldn't give that child everything he or she deserved? Why birth a child into a situation where they will suffer in one way or another?

Secondly, many pro-lifers will argue that a fetus is a life, regardless of whether or not a heartbeat is established. However, scientifically speaking, a fetus cannot survive without the woman, and the fetus' right to life does not trump the woman's right to choose what happens in her own body. The big moral question is what matters more, the choice of the woman or the right to life of the child?

Thirdly, the most infamous argument is that any woman who chooses to have sex should deal with the consequences. Personally, I find this argument particularly frustrating and stupid. The sex education in public schools is appalling - 37 states have laws where sex ed must include abstinence only education, and 26 of which require abstinence-only contraception is taught. Research has shown that abstinence-only strategies actually deter the use of contraceptives in teenagers, which INCREASES their chance of pregnancy. Allowing access to contraceptives like birth control and condoms will decrease pregnancy in all age groups (particularly in poor and uneducated women), and the need for abortions will decrease. Furthermore, just because a woman consents to have sex does not mean she consents to have a child, and on another topic, consent is always necessary for every action. Including pregnancy.

The most important thing to know about the pro-choice argument is that outlawing abortions will not stop abortions - it will increase the number of unsafe abortions; The WHO estimates that 47,000 women and girls die each year from unsafe abortions around the world, and another 5 million suffer disabilities as a result. Can I just say, holy shit? People who are pro-life care more about the life of an unborn child (who often doesn't even have an established heartbeat yet), than we do for the woman and girls who surround us. We are allowing women to risk killing or disabling themselves than allowing them control of their own bodies, the rates of abortion are comparable, meaning that outlawing abortion doesn't do much to deter women from seeking abortions out. If abortion continues to be illegal, women will continue to seek out abortions and endure many more consequences, rather than the safety of a legal abortion.

Also, many women who seek abortions are poor women who can't afford to have a child. Since many Republicans are pro-life, I'm going to make the leap that most pro-lifers are also against welfare. Allowing abortion to be more accessible will decrease the number of families on welfare, which is a win for Republicans!

Many people who argue the pro-life stance tell me that there's no way I could understand their point of view since their point of view comes from a religious standpoint. This past fall, I began my journey into entering the Catholic church. I understand where your religion could dictate your feelings on this, but I think it's important to recognize that the women in your life have just as much right to control their life as you have to control yours. (Just throwing that little tidbit out there).

I will always be pro-choice, but being pro-choice is more than just believing that all women should have access to abortions and to have control over their bodies. Being pro-choice also means that women should have access to sex education and to the birth control which works best for their body (I have the Nexaplanon implant, and it has changed my life). It means that women around the world should have the right to decide when, where and how they want to have children. I will always be pro-choice because it is one small piece of being a feminist, and one small piece of creating equality for women. I will always be pro-choice because bringing a child into the world where it will be born already at a disadvantage is unfair and cruel, but the fact that children can even be born at a disadvantage is a massive, but completely different but still incredibly relevant issue with society.

I will be pro-choice until the only thing that exists is the option for control over my own damn body.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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8 Types Of People Fetuses Grow Into That 'Pro-Lifers' Don't Give 2.5 Shits About

It is easy to fight for the life of someone who isn't born, and then forget that you wanted them to be alive when you decide to hate their existence.


For those in support of the #AbortionBans happening all over the United States, please remember that the unborn will not always be a fetus — he or she may grow up to be just another person whose existence you don't support.

The fetus may grow up to be transgender — they may wear clothes you deem "not for them" and identify in a way you don't agree with, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them a mentally unstable perv for trying to use the bathroom.

The fetus may grow up to be gay — they may find happiness and love in the arms of someone of the same gender, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them "vile" and shield your children's eyes when they kiss their partner.

The fetus may grow up and go to school — to get shot by someone carrying a gun they should have never been able to acquire, and their life will mean nothing to you when your right to bear arms is on the line.

The fetus may be black — they may wear baggy pants and "look like a thug", and their life will mean nothing to you when you defend the police officer who had no reason to shoot.

The fetus may grow up to be a criminal — he might live on death row for a heinous crime, and his life will mean nothing to you when you fight for the use of lethal injection to end it.

The fetus may end up poor — living off of a minimum wage job and food stamps to survive, and their life will mean nothing to you when they ask for assistance and you call them a "freeloader" and refuse.

The fetus may end up addicted to drugs — an experimentation gone wrong that has led to a lifetime of getting high and their life will mean nothing to you when you see a report that they OD'd and you make a fuss about the availability of Narcan.

The fetus may one day need an abortion — from trauma or simply not being ready, and her life will mean nothing to you as you wave "murderer" and "God hates you" signs as she walks into the office for the procedure.

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Do not tell me that you are pro-life when all of the above people could lose their lives in any way OUTSIDE of abortion and you wouldn't give 2.5 shits.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is gay or trans, you will berate them for who they are or not support them for who they love.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is poor or addicted, you will refuse the help they desperately need or consider their death a betterment of society.

You fight for the baby to be born, but when the used-to-be-classroom-of-fetuses is shot, you care more about your access to firearms than their lives.

It is easy to pretend you care about someone before they are even born, and easy to forget their birth was something you fought for when they are anything other than what you consider an ideal person.

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