Everywhere I look I see couples. Whether that’s walking through the mall, scurrying around campus, or out to dinner. Everyone seems to be paired off.
You’re probably thinking that this article will be some pitiful rant about me hating people who are in relationships, but that isn’t what you’re going to get. The truth is I have a lot of respect for people who are in happy, loving, and committed relationships but that doesn’t mean I want one, at least not right now. It also doesn’t mean that I am ready for one right now. I’ve recently experienced a loss so great that part of my heart feels like it’s missing, and maybe that plays a huge part in why I don’t want a relationship, but the bottom line is this: I’m happy with who I am and right now, that’s enough for me.
When I was younger (like middle school days) I thought it meant you were cool if you had a “boyfriend”. However, as I get older I realize that having a boyfriend shouldn’t be something I set my sights on and strive for. Sure, being in a relationship is fun and exciting, but I am so much more than just someone’s girlfriend.
I’m a firm believer in true love. I absolutely can not wait to fall in love and do the whole big white wedding, marriage, babies- the whole shebang. But I can wait.
Right now I am the college girl who doesn’t have, and doesn’t want, a relationship. And believe me, it’s caused a few problems. People don’t understand what I mean when I say that I’m not looking for a relationship right now. They think I’m either sleeping around or scared of commitment and neither are true.
The reason for not wanting a relationship is simple: I’m not ready for one.
You wouldn’t jump out of an airplane until you were properly equipped and ready, would you? No! And I wouldn’t jump into a relationship until being properly equipped and ready either. What’s the difference?
Ready or not is NOT true when it comes to relationships.
So if you find yourself single and happy I believe you should relish in it!
Go out on the weekdays because you can.
Stay up late watching Netflix because no one is hogging your bed and yelling at you to turn off the TV.
Make that “Dream Wedding” Pinterest board even without any prospects.
Eat the cake.
Dance all night.
Wear sweatpants all day and don’t leave your house.
Buy the dress.
Do whatever makes you genuinely happy because YOU can write your own happy ending, whether someone else comes around to help you write it or not.
