Why It's OK To Not Want To Party In College

Why It's OK To Not Want To Party In College

What?! You don't want to party in college?

“Come on! You’re no fun”

Excuse me? I’m no fun because I don’t want to spend my weekend throwing up? I’m no fun because I want to remember what I did? Did you ever think that I might have a different idea of fun than you?

If you’re anything like me, you are sitting in your room on Friday and Saturday nights trying to hear Netflix over the noise coming from the closest frat house. You hear stories the next morning at brunch when everyone else looks like death and you’ve gotten 12 hours of sleep. Don’t get me wrong; there have been times when it was me who couldn’t remember what happened the night before or had to sleep on the floor because I was so sick.

I realized that what I was doing was because someone else wanted me to do it, and not because I actually enjoyed it.

The belief that college is supposed to be about partying is false. I’m sorry if this offends any of you frat boys out there, but I have bigger plans that what I’m going to wear to your party on Saturday night. College is about learning and going to class (yes, I'm sorry but that's what you're paying for), and having fun when it doesn't interfere with those things. I don't want to waste my tuition by ruining my GPA.

You’re not weird if you don’t want to party all of the time. There are plenty of us who want to have fun in other ways. It's frustrating that in our society today that movies, books, TV shows, and social media are telling us that partying is the normal thing to do, and not doing it means that we are missing out. Yeah, it might be the normal thing, but that doesn’t make it the right thing for me.

Not wanting to party does not take away from your college experience. Partying shouldn’t be the biggest part of our four years here. Some of us want to have different memories, and that’s okay. We should be able to make these decisions for ourselves without being judged. If you want to stay in every weekend, you have every right to do that. If you want to party every weekend, go ahead. Maybe finding that balance between having fun, going out, partying, and staying in is what you want to do, and that's perfectly okay too. Respect the decisions of others even if they are unlike your own.

So I beg you; Stop telling me I am no fun for not drinking three days a week. Stop pressuring me to party when you know I don't want to. Please stop asking me why I’m more interested in studying than partying (because honestly that’s a stupid question). Please stop telling me I am "missing out." But most importantly, stop judging me because I have a different idea of fun than you.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From Kid President That Got Us Through Our Toughest Days

He might be young, but he's so wise.


The Kid President made his debut in 2012 and has impacted many lives with his positivity and kind words. He provides insight into negative situations and gives us all words to live by. Here are 10 times his words helped us get through the day.

1. When we didn't want to follow through with plans.


We've all been in the position where we had a bad day and wanted to cancel our plans. People want you there, so it's true: just you being there does make it awesome.

2. When you felt like you were struggling as a parent.


Your kids love you as a parent. They look up to you and value everything you do! Realistically, you're doing a great job and your kids see it, too.

3. When you felt like quitting.


You might be an adult, but there's still a force within you to keep you going.

4. When you felt overwhelmed.


Kid President gives great advice when it comes to being stressed: pause, breathe, love. It only takes a few minutes to pause and breathe in order to get back on track.

5. When you felt like you didn't matter.


You're here for a reason and have a spot on this planet, you matter.

6. When you saw your cousin post something political on Facebook.


Post-election Facebook was a battleground full of insults and disagreements. It's okay to disagree, but there's no reason for us to go out of our way to make someone else feel bad about their position.

7. When you someone cut you off driving and you want to hawk them down.


... then don't do it. Plain and simple. It won't do anyone any good to go after someone for something that really isn't a big deal.

8. When you felt like no one was listening.


You have so much to say and share, people will listen, especially if you have good things to say.

9. When you felt like you didn't know what you're doing.


If you're wearing pants and have toilet paper, you're doing a good job being an adult.

10. When you needed encouragement to get up.


Straight to the point, let's do it. You don't have to do it alone, but you have to do it.

Kid President is the king of good advice. It's all put in simple terms because we don't need to complicate anything anymore.

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