I know what you are probably thinking, "What girl doesn't have an anxious heart?"
In some ways, this is true. But everyone is different, and some people are probably a little more anxious than others and some people are a little less anxious than others. But nonetheless, we are girls. Every girl gets a little more anxious than normal when it comes to emotions and feelings and all of that fun stuff.
I will be the first one to say, even writing this article I feel so anxious. I literally have a pain in my chest right now because I really don't know exactly what I want to say or how I want to say it. So then, I get in my own head and think maybe I should change my topic and write about something different, something easier. But I really feel like bringing this to light is necessary.
Loving a girl with an anxious heart can the best and worst experience.
We only want to make you happy. Girls with anxious hearts love to love more than anyone. And I promise you we will let you know a million times just how happy we are to be with you at that moment, just to make sure you know, in case you didn't. Even though you probably already knew. We are reassure-ers. Because, well, we like to be reassured too. Which kinda sucks. That's just how we work. We find it so easy to get into our heads and make up scenarios that if we took two seconds to think about, we would realize how dumb they are. But we don't because we are too busy thinking about a million other things.
We are people pleasers.
We can't help it, that's just how our minds work. We want you to be happy all the time, and sometimes that can come across as super obnoxious...whoops. A lot of the time we will put other people's feelings above our own, and that will do more harm than good. We think that if you are happy, then we will be happy too. Especially when it comes to people we really care about. We give because we know how it feels to want.
Sometimes we trust too much, sometimes we trust too little.
Personally, I trust people way too easy. I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt, and believe they are a genuinely good person. But this isn't always the case. I love people, so I have to stop myself a lot and make myself back up a few steps to reality. On the other, it can come across that we don't trust you. More times than not, we do, we are just scared. Within five seconds into a conversation, we will have already made up 500 scenarios about what is about to happen or what already happened. We don't mean to. But once we do this, it takes a little bit for our hearts and brains to stop going a million miles a minute.
Dating a girl with an anxious heart takes patience and a lot of it. But I promise that you will be loved with the purest, authentic love. Because we love to feel secure and safe, we are going love the same way we want to be loved. Our worst battle is between what we know and what we feel. Sometimes one of those trumps the other.
Some people's weakness is that they care too much; it is also their strength" -Brigitte Nicole
