I am a firm believer in self-love and self-care. It often comes off as selfish sometimes but I really do not care. I love me and that will never change. My feelings, emotions, and or happiness will always be the first priority in my life. My goal in life is to be unconditionally happy meaning without anything supplementary that is tangible or human. Taking care of myself involves some daily routines that most people overlook or take for granted. First, I value personal hygiene. It is another topic of discussion to explain people who are unable to afford or find ways to cleanse themselves. Although for me, I can afford to cleanse myself and enjoy cleansing myself. Attending class, work, and social activities clean with a face full of organic makeup is my way of being healthy. To me, it displays self-awareness and self-care.; I care what I look like when I step out of my house. If I was not concerned with my appearance, then those who truly care for me should be worried. Another way I display my self-care, is through my clothing. Every day I try, some days I fail, to put on clothes that are clean, ironed, and lady like. My goal is to not impress someone else just impress myself. These are just a few ways I care for me. There are other such as exercise and hanging around positive people.Yet, there are people who do not believe in self-care. Just know I will always put me first so deal with it.

My family and friends are not always the best with taking care of themselves, physically, emotionally, and mentally. I always knew that I wanted something better for me. Growing up, I watched some of the women in my life dress poorly because of their insecurities with their bodies. As a girl as young as seven, she, I, needs to be able to see secure and positive women in her life. You can question the validness of clothes and how they make you feel but for now believe me. We all have noticed those females or males who mask their appearance in makeup or clothes. They are not comfortable in their skin. Being conscious of what you put in and on your body is the most obvious form of self-care. Society, nutritionist, and doctors have all made it clear that fast foods and sugar diets are not the best things for your body to endure. For some odd reason, people refuse to let poor food options be a once in a while decision. While in college, I saw females let males verbally abuse them. If you knew you worth, you would not let someone devalue yours. My closest friends have settle for relationships knowing they were worth so much more. I have seen so much self-hate in many different forms as stated above that all I want to do is love myself.

Please do not confuse my self-care with selfishness. Honestly, I can be selfish sometimes but I do not mean it. I have put others before me and the result was bad in which I think we all have been guilty of at some point in time. Instead of finding a happy medium in pleasing others and pleasing myself, I put all my energy into me. After all of the years of neglecting myself and not focusing on getting to know myself, I now understand why I love me so much.