Why It's Okay To Not Be Okay

Dear Me,

I know things have been rough lately, and you feel like there is no one around you who understands, but it is okay to not be okay sometimes. Life throws us all through hoops - it puts us in places we did not think we would ever see and into sticky situations where all we can think is, “why me?” It’s you because you are strong enough; you can get through it.

Stop getting into your own head, there is no reason to overthink everything. Life is not supposed to be 99 percent stress and one percent having fun. The people around you, although they may not understand exactly how you feel, are still there for you and still care about you. Our problems can’t always be put on someone else, for they too may be going through things that we cannot understand. Stop crying yourself to sleep and making every situation seem worse than it is. Because it isn’t. There is always a tomorrow, and tomorrow is a new day.

Stop letting yesterday’s negativity ruin today’s fun. When we are old and senile, we aren’t going to remember the days we stayed inside and felt bad for ourselves, we are going to remember the exciting adventures and hilarious moments we shared with our family and friends.

It is okay to not always be okay. It is okay to have bad days, as long as you are having twice the amount of good ones. Don’t let the little things ruin your day or your week, you are better than that. Someone may hurt you or something unexpected may happen, causing your life to take a wrong turn, but you have the power to inhale negativity and exhale positivity. Nothing is ever going to be perfect. No situation will ever go as planned. No one will ever do exactly what you wished they would. Life is not perfect, and neither are we.

It is okay to admit that you are having a bad day or that something is not sitting right with you. Talk to the people around you. Vent, but do not feel bad for yourself for too long, because that will only make you feel worse. Sometimes, our situations are too extraneous for others to understand, but if they are trying to help you, don’t get irritated with them, be happy that they care.

If someone or something is causing you to be miserable, you have the power to cut them or it out of your life. If it is not making you happy and you feel as though it is a burden, you have no reason to keep it in your life.

We all have stress, we all have to do things we don’t want to. It is okay to feel stressed, it just can’t overcome you. Stop worrying about your future and not being where you want to be at the moment, great things take time. You are stronger than that. Make the best out of your days, they are not unlimited. Love yourself with all of your might and take care of yourself, because if you don’t, who will? You are your own best friend, but also your own worst enemy.

It is okay to not always be okay, but it is not okay to not do anything to help yourself. Storms don’t last forever.

Love,