If a guy gets in a girl's pants, they're praised.

If a girl gets in a guy's pants...they're a slut?

I grew up accepting that. I think that's what makes me the most frustrated about the whole thing. I allowed my young teenage self to think sex was bad. To view it as something that I should be ashamed of. I didn't want to ever have sex because I didn't want anyone to have a reason to call me a slut.

I am glad I waited until my twenties to lose my virginity. That's really not what this is about. It's about the fact that I made my decision based on the standard everyone held girls too. It's as if girls live solely to please men and give them a good name. Then when they do, it ends up turning around making the girl looking bad for enjoying something the guy clearly did too.

So why?

Why can't I, a woman, like sex?

Why can't I crave sex?

Why is it not acceptable for a girl to like sex like a guy likes sex?

The sad thing is, it's not just guys calling girls sluts, we all call each other that. As if putting each other down makes it better when guys do it. I really can't understand why we feel like we'll get somewhere by continuing this. We're just making it so when we have daughters and sons one day that one of them should be reprimanded for doing an action, while the other should be praised for it.

A girl has a one-night stand with a guy, and a guy has a one night stand with three different girls.

The guy gets cheered on, while the girl is made fun of and looked down on.

The double standard will never go away, and unfortunately, we can't just blame the guys for that. We have to blame ourselves too because chances are, we have all called another girl some type of name that indicated that they were easy. Even if we didn't have a justifiable reason, we've most likely done it. We're at fault because of this, and if we don't stop it, neither will guys, and neither will our future generations to come.

Where do we go from here? I'm not really sure where you guys will end up, but I know where I won't. I won't end up teaching my little girl that she should be afraid of sex. It's a beautiful thing, that one day when she is old enough and ready, she should take on. She shouldn't have any self-doubt or fear that she'll be judged. The only person's opinion she should ever take into consideration is herself.

Men, I ask you in complete seriousness why is there a double standard with sex? Do you not want me to enjoy? Do you not want me to want it?

When I don't have sex with you, I'm a prude, but if I do I'm a slut. There is no winning here, so what do you suggest?

I suggest to you, drop the double standard. Let us enjoy what you enjoy. If it's meant to be it will, but don't blame it not working out on us being sluts. Because I assure you, if we're sluts, you're way worse off.

Sincerely,

The girls who enjoy sex & don't appreciate double standards.