Heartbreak of any kind in life is inevitable and in college, it’s a whole new story. Whether it’s the guy you thought you had an emotional connection with in the corner at a party, or the guy you met at the bar who said he’d call but never did. Trust me, we’ve all been there somehow, somewhere. Most any girl can remember at least one guy that has left them in the dust to try to analyze every aspect of every interaction between you and said guy, to come to the conclusion that they must be completely delusional or *sigh* sadly uninterested for some strange reason you cannot fathom. If you’re an over-thinker like me, you’ve thought about every possible and impossible scenario as to why he never called. As much as you try to convince yourself and all of your best friends that you’re totally over him, doubts always creep back into your mind when you’re alone watching "Pride and Prejudice" (again for the fourth time) or out third wheeling for the fourth Friday night in a row, you ask yourself “Why can’t I stop thinking about someone who clearly forgot about me?”

• You’re lonely—but that’s OK. Truest statement to ever come out of a Lindsey Lohan movie was that you need to remember, you are a smart, strong, beautiful, independent woman, and you don't need a man to complete you. As cheesy as one might find "Freaky Friday," this quote is so accurate to girls at any stage in their lives, especially college. This is our time to be young and selfish! Spend your time doing whatever you want, whether that be staying in bed on a Netflix binge eating the newest Ben & Jerrys flavor or having a girls night in complete with oatmeal masks and drink of your choice. You don’t have anyone to answer to but yoursef and that is pretty empowering. Always remember that you do not need a boy or a girl’s validation for your existence—you are fantastic just the way you are and do not let anyone ever tell you different.
• The only time he remembers you is when he’s drunk. Of course, the only time you get a call from him is when it’s 2 a.m. on a Saturday night when he’s walking home to his empty bed. As tempting as it is to answer or catch a cab to his place, remember that you deserve a 2 p.m. phone call, not a 2 a.m. booty call. Having self-respect is a necessity in life and college, especially when the line that crosses between your personal morals becomes blurred. Yes, being young is all about discovery and learning lessons the hard way, but take it from me; you do not want to be anyone’s second choice. My dad has always told me that I shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. If he only wants to be with you when it’s convenient for him, or he can use the excuse that he was drunk, tell Felicia bye.
• Leave his social media alone. I repeat, leave it alone. Checking his Insta, Twitter, or Facebook will prolong the healing process and make it harder for you to get over someone. Checking to see what tweets he’s favoring or girls he tweeting at will only cause you unnecessary heartache. Staring at the new picture he just posted with a puppy won’t magically cure him from being a jerk either. If you are aware that checking Twitter just makes you upset, delete that app! Don’t download it until you’re feeling confident in yourself, or maybe even discover that you don’t really like Twitter at all! Whatever works for you! Do not let social media control your thoughts and steal your time. Instead, do something active! Take all of those feelings and frustrations and put them into something positive. Go for a walk with your roomies or go see the new comedy at the movie theater. Yes, time does heal most, and soon enough you’ll completely forget to check his page at all.
• Don’t look for him at the bar or on campus. Spending your Tuesday nights at pints in O’Kelly’s scanning the room to catch a glimpse of your latest heartbreak is a sure way to ruin your night. Enjoy the music, enjoy the drinks! Do not waste your night out with your friends pining to get just a glance of his face or throwing yourself at the nearest guy you’re completely uninterested in just to make him jealous. The only person harmed during this process will be yourself. Dress up for no one but yourself, put on that red lipstick you’ve been dying to try since you bought it a month ago and do not give a hoot or a holler what any boy has to say about it. Own. It.
• It’s OK to be sad. It’s OK to feel sad and confused when a boy you genuinely thought was interested in you ignored your texts or never called when he said he would. That is human nature my dear readers/friends. But do not let it consume you. Wipe your tears, put the bag of Twizzlers down, and turn off "He’s Just Not that Into You," and remember that it is that boy’s loss. Go in front of a mirror (I know some of you think this is lame) and tell yourself that it is his loss and then name off a minimum of five things he’s missing out by not calling you back. Be confident! If you’re not really one for talking to yourself in front of mirrors, write it down! Remember it is OK to feel blue about a boy, but do not let it overtake your other emotions. I always tell myself that the boy was doing me a favor. Yeah, it hurts when someone doesn’t like you back and it makes you question yourself, but it just means someone better is meant to be placed in my life that will care and love me unconditionally.

Sometimes we have to go through hard times to really appreciate the good, or in this case, wonder why he never called you back. Just keep your head up, remember all of your wonderful qualities, find a new hobby, focus on your schoolwork, spend time with your friends, and enjoy yourselves!