I'm a 19 year old college student, and I don't believe in casual dating or hooking up with random people..weird, I know. I'm one of those people who actually believes in commitment. I believe in serious relationships and heartbreak. And as cliche as this sounds, I believe everyone has a soulmate that they're meant to fall in love and spend the rest of their lives with.
The majority of people my age don't care to be in serious relationships; in fact, most people are against the idea of anything involving a title. They see this as a waste of time and feel that this will ruin their "college experience". College is the supposedly the best four years of your life. So why waste your time being tied down to one person when you can be single, casually date multiple people, and hook up with whoever you want? Honestly, this kind of thought process disgusts me and it is found everywhere in this generation. I apologize if that offends anyone, but I don't believe for a second that "hooking up" with people is better than being in a serious, loving, committed relationship. In reality, I think that people today are just scared of commitment and heartbreak. And I get it, letting people in and allowing them to see you for who you really are can be terrifying. But if you ever want to find true love, you're gonna have to suffer through some heartbreak first...that's just part of life, and you will get over it. Here are some reasons why I'm against the casual dating / hook up culture of today--
1. No labels.
I'm not saying I have to have a label immediately when I start seeing someone. With that said, if it's been a few months and I still don't even know if we're exclusive, that definitely becomes an issue.
2. High standards.
I don't think I have ridiculous or unrealistic standards, but I definitely have high standards. I've learned in the past that you can't change a guy to make him meet your standards, so it's best to just not waste your time. Move on and the right one will come along eventually!
3. Confusion.
Not all people are upfront about the fact that they are seeing you and twelve other people, and this causes a lot of heartache and confusion. You may think that the person you're seeing is only seeing you and you two are definitely exclusive, but the other person could be on a totally different page. Can you even ask what the two of you are to each other without weirding him / her out because it's not serious? I just can't comprehend how anyone can date multiple people at the same time and avoid confusing, mixed emotions. Like how do you even keep all the names straight??
4. Morals.
If I meet a guy and he's the kind of person that parties constantly and hooks up with any girl he can get with, then I immediately know we don't share the same morals. If a guy doesn't share the same morals that I do, why should I waste my time dating or hooking up with him? In my opinion, you date someone because you see potential in them. And when things get serious in your relationship, you begin to picture a future with them. If the ultimate goal of dating isn't marriage, then you're just dating to eventually breakup. What's the point in that?
These are only a few of many reasons as to why I'm against today's casual dating / hook up culture. So if you're single, staying true to yourself, your morals, and holding people to your high standards, just know you're not alone! The right one will come along eventually, and until then keep focusing on bettering yourself and your future :)
