When I began a long-distance relationship in college, I had no idea what was ahead of me. There are so many factors of college life that can easily scare someone away from the idea. A number of people told me that I was wasting my time, that I should be "exploring all of my options" at such a young age in this new environment, and that it would become too difficult for me to handle. Now, three years into my college relationship, I have found myself to be the best version of myself I've ever been. I have grown into a more independent person while growing even closer in my relationship.
There are pros and cons to being in both nearby and long-distance relationships. From my experience, I have found that the pros heavily outweigh the cons in long distance. One of the greatest developments my relationship has had since being long distance is maturity. We no longer find ourselves arguing over minuscule issues that we know truly don't matter like who we talked to while we were walking to class or out for the night. We have gained a trust from being away from one another that has taken our relationship to a much stronger level.
Another advantage to being in a LDR is the opportunity to be more productive. Being in a relationship with someone who lives right next door can make you feel obligated to spend ample amounts of time with him or her, potentially seeing one another every day. By not seeing that person every single day, I am able to focus more time on getting what I need done, done. I feel that a healthy relationship is one in which you can work toward and maintain your personal goals while simultaneously focusing time and effort toward the relationship. In the past year, I was able to work a part-time job, obtain an internship, earn a position in my sorority and remain a full-time student all while being in a long distance relationship.
By designating time to see one another, we are able to take full advantage of what our college environments offer us and grow closer to one another. Additionally, when we are able to see one another, all of our attention is on us. I rarely find myself checking my messages or social media when I visit my boyfriend. It is nearly impossible to take the time we have together for granted, and I am especially thankful to experience that.
I have learned to appreciate being with someone I care about in an entirely new way, and it makes me look forward to the future with this new perspective. I would advise anyone to not turn away from the idea of dating long distance in college. With the right amount of effort, you may just find yourself in the most healthy relationship yet, while growing into the person you have always wanted to be.
