Majoring In Music Wasn't For Me And I'm Learning To Be At Peace With That

Majoring In Music Wasn't For Me And I'm Learning To Be At Peace With That

I remember being apprehensive about studying music academically because it had always been a passion and a hobby that I loved.


"Don't think of it like you are giving up something, think of it like you are removing an obstacle from your path towards your goal."

A few days ago my mom's college friend, Dolly, came to visit with her family in Virginia. For as long as I can remember I have viewed her as a wise, God-fearing, kind woman with a beautiful family. We spent the day playing with the dogs, eating a delicious meal at the local diner, and catching up on each other's lives. Naturally, the conversation turned to my first year at college and what I was thinking about majoring in. I told them Anthropology and Human Biology and Music. I also expressed how I was on the fence about my double major.

After a long conversation with Dolly about why I was unsure if I wanted to continue my Music major, my thoughts started to line up in my head like they had never done before. Embarrassingly, I started to cry. I know that I have only finished one year of college and that this dilemma really isn't that bad when you look at the big picture but being an Anthro Human Bio and Music double major has been the way I have identified myself for the past year. Unfortunately, my first year at college wasn't the easiest. I took difficult classes and threw myself into lots of time-consuming extracurriculars. I was overwhelmed and began to feel burdened by all I had taken on. But I was passionate about everything I was doing so I thought I would be okay.

As a senior in high school, I remember being apprehensive about studying music academically because it had always been a passion and a hobby that I loved. I was scared that if I chose to study it in college, the in-depth nature of college academics would make me hate music. Dolly reminded me that God gave me a gift for singing and that I shouldn't be so quick to throw that away. However, if using that gift in this way wasn't enriching my life then that wasn't God's plan for me. God may be calling me somewhere else.

I opened up to Dolly about how studying music had been a source of a lot of stress and unhappiness. She listened and reasoned and made me feel like all these thoughts that had been running around in my head could find peace. I decided to drop the music major and minor instead.

Like Dolly said I am "removing an obstacle from the path towards my goal." That goal is a career in Physical Therapy or at least something in Sports Medicine/Health and Fitness. While music will always remain a passion of mine, I am excited to begin loving it again for all the reasons I fell in love with it in the first place. It makes me feel confident, creative, and brings me closer to like-minded people.

Thank you, Dolly, for your inspiring words of comfort and wisdom. I am excited to begin my sophomore year on the same path but with a clearer vision of where I am headed.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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If You Hate The South, What's Keeping You?

I have to ask.


To preface this article, College of Charleston is made up of a little over 11 thousand students, 31.4 percent of those students being out-of-state.

So, if I took 11,000 students and calculated that 31.4% I am left with 3,454 students.

While that may not seem significant compared to the 7,546 In-state students, take a short walk around campus and you will realize just what a misconception that is.

The people from the North that attend College of Charleston complain about the school, the culture, and southern beliefs and traditions more than anything that I have ever seen in my life. They don't see coming here as a privilege, but more of an opportunity to boost their own perception of life and the way it should be lived and interpreted.

Because we stayed in state, we are "stuck in high school."

Did no one ever mention that half of them are here because their in-state options are either too challenging to get into or too expensive?

Consider it a favor!

Whatever point they are trying to make by coming here and trash-talking the South, it would be interesting if they could just once acknowledge the fact that they are still here for one reason or another.

To them, it seems the South is the glue that holds together apart of our history that everyone wants to erase by tearing down a view statues and dismantling a flag.

The students that come here neglect to realize that the way that they were raised and the cultures that they have been exposed to are merely a blimp. There is an entire world outside of your comfort zone, and if you decided to travel thousands of miles for school, why not at least try to adjust or become tolerant?

Surprise, we don't date our cousins and we know a few words in the Oxford Dictionary besides, "y'all."

It gets exhausting having to hear that we are all a bunch of Conservatives who support such a cruel history that existed before we did.

What no one seems to grasp is that this school is a Liberal Arts School, and you can tell that the second you sit through an orientation here. Everyone here is captivated by leftist viewpoints and exhaust all efforts in everything they can to broadcast them amongst each other. They don't discriminate, and it happens not only between professors and students but everyone with a pulse on this campus.

From CNN quizzes each week, to rallies during classes, I see no end. This place smothers you entirely and makes you question everything, and the people are a huge part of the blame.

So, I have to ask... if you hate the south so much, why are you still here?

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