First things first: I rarely get this deep. Sry not sry. It's most likely a one time thing. It's easier said than done to not hate, or even "strongly dislike" someone for any reason. People can do horrible things or people will simply do things that just bother you. Once someone has done wrong, one of the hardest things to do is letting it go and moving on.
People can spend their entire life holding a grudge against someone for both minor and huge mistakes. This article is inspired by times where I watched someone actively hate another person and where I have had hate for people myself. I have disliked people, it's a natural thing to do. If everyone could love everyone naturally, this world would obviously be very different. There's no way to truly love everything that everyone does, but the good comes when you recognize that you are feeling hateful things and when you choose to rationalize your thoughts. There's no way to love everyone, but there's a way to reroute your brain and make both you and everyone around you happier.
Hating someone only makes you more upset.
Sometimes it feels good to lash out at people or talk badly about people. Why is this? Why do people love to gossip, speak words of hate or to mutually dislike someone? The most obvious reason is that it makes you feel better about yourself. But does it really in the end? Hint: it doesn't. Spending your time looking through pictures that will make you angry, talking to people that will bring you down or even THINKING something negative will in turn make you a more bitter, angry and less fun person to be around. When you think or say negative things about someone else, you're really just bringing yourself down.
Forgiving is useless unless it is active.
You can say "It's okay" a thousand times but until you actively forgive someone, you won't get over what has happened. Simply telling someone you forgive them is one thing. Active forgiveness is something that you have to install into your every day life. You won't instantly forgive someone for something but once you tell yourself that it's not worth either of your time to hold on to it, that's when you can enter a repair stage. That doesn't mean it's okay when someone does something really bad to you, it just means you're going to choose to not let it change who you are. You're not going to let it make you bitter or ruin your life. Things that hurt you will not go away, but you can train yourself to deal with them in a way that can actually benefit your life.
Two people can grow from one person's actions.
As people, we all need grace, forgiveness, and love. Holding a grudge against someone is only going to hurt you and it is so much work to have to hate someone. Even if forgiveness is out of the question, which it definitely is sometimes, letting things go in your heart will make you feel so much better.
I've found myself holding on to things that have happened and never letting go of them for a really long time. But somehow, within the past year and a half, I have trained myself to think differently and doing this can make you happier, more fun to be around, and a better person in general. I have written this in hopes to get through to anyone and wish I had learned this earlier in life.
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