Hate is a strong emotion we all feel too often and I want to ask you one thing.
Why?
Why do we hate a person? A thing? An animal? A negative situation? Is it because we feel that we were right in the situation? Do we have a bad experience with a certain person? Is it second nature to assume that one negative will fuel many more negatives?
Hate is defined as a passionate dislike for something, usually a person, but not always. We tend to hate when we spot a difference in personalities, interests, conflicts or to fit into the crowd. I personally know too well what it feels like when you are the subject of hate. We hate things or people who don't fit inside a box; they're outside society's concept of "normal."
I'm different, and I like being different. I don't like following in other people's foot steps, I'm curious about the world around me, and I enjoy the little things in life. I'm also a large personality to handle at times, even I don't know how to deal with me. I'm loud, I'm ambitious, I can be obnoxious and I repeat myself often. I don't plan on changing myself for other people, but for myself when I want to. That's one type of hate, but there are more that expose the disgusting worlds of sexism, homophobia, misogyny and ableism.
We let anger and hate eat up our insides.
Why?
We can't change events that have happened or rewind time and do what we've learned after the event occurred. When you let go of hate, your shoulders drop a little, and you're able to see people's true colors. Hate is an emotion we choose to feel; happiness just happens on its own.
Feeling hate takes a lot more energy than cracking a smile or laughing. I have spent too many hours contemplating how I can change people's minds about myself or opinions, but I have come to the conclusion that I can never do that. People are going to have their opinions and feelings which is absolutely their right. If people don't like me, someone else, something obscure or a situation, they are entitled to that opinion. They are allowed to feel any way they would like. We feel and perpetuate hate because it's a norm to feel by someone else's actions. No matter how much a leader we view ourselves, you're a follower if you hate because someone else does.
When we let go of the negative feelings and emotions that are so easy to get tangled up in, your life is a little brighter. I've learned not to hate anyone or anything; I dislike things, and I can't tolerate people at times, but I don't hate anyone. There is always good in people and situations which I believe we should take notice of more often.
But if you do hate someone, something or a situation, here's something I want you to think about.
Why? Is it really worth your energy to hate? Will you it affect your life in a week? A month? Five years from now?
Probably not.
