Why Happiness Is The Most Attractive Trait

Why Happiness Is The Most Attractive Trait

Happiness makes you beautiful; being beautiful does not make you happy.
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We are constantly surrounded by people all throughout our lives. Due to the rise of social media and the glamorized society that we so happen to live in today, we are constantly showed airbrushed, photoshopped, skinny models who are smiling on a tropical island somewhere with a nice cold drink.

We think: "Why can't we look like these 'beautiful' and 'attractive' people?" We begin to question our own happiness when reflecting on superficial formalities such as one's looks and one's way of life.

Real beauty isn't that easy, though. It isn't a fabulous tan, a size-two body and a perfect wardrobe. It isn't a nice Rolex watch, fresh haircut and the newest Air Jordans. It's not about what we have or what we look like. True beauty hides within each and every one of us and comes out through a little thing that we call happiness.

1. Happy people love themselves for who they are.

People who are genuinely happy don't feel the need to search for satisfaction within others. They accept and embrace both their physical and emotional appearances, regardless of whether they receive the same approval from others. Instead of wallowing in what others would define as weaknesses or imperfections, they work to make the best of their lives.

When you look at someone who is smiling from their soul, you can see a light that’s shining out of them that just isn’t there when they’re not. It stops you cold and warms your heart. Seeing a real genuine smile will make even the so-called "ugliest" people beautiful. When people radiate positive energy they make other people feel better as well.

2. Happy people do beautiful acts.

Happy people are more likely to be kind and seek the best in others. They’re the ones who perform random acts of kindness for complete strangers. They crave happiness from others because they know how beautiful life can be when you live a happy one.

They have so much love in their heart because they’ve found a way to fill their own cup; to make themselves happy. That makes them willing and able to spread happiness as far as they can. They don't necessarily do it to feel good, but because they want others to feel that way too.

3. Happy people are the best supporters in friendships and relationships.

Unlike other people, genuinely happy people appreciate and celebrate others' accomplishments. There is nothing attractive about being jealous of others, especially when it's of someone that you love and care about. People should try to build others up, not tear each other down.

While competition is good, the reason for it is to be the best that you can and drive one another to succeed. When jealousy and maliciousness come out, we are only hurting ourselves and those around us. Happy people will forever boost others up and feel genuine joy when others accomplish great things.

4. Happy people live in the present.

As fun as reminiscing about the past or fantasizing about the future can be, nothing will ever be done anywhere besides the present and happy people tend to realize that. Happy people make the most of every single moment because they know that everything is temporary. From the motivation given, being present can also come in handy for truly appreciating those moments of relaxation, allowing yourself to be truly in them rather than distracted by future concerns.

Happiness is the most attractive trait of all. Being around someone who constantly looks at life negatively can take a toll on others. Of course, everyone has their bad days and has a right to be sad, but looking on the brighter side can really be beneficial to you.

Happy people have a certain glow to them that just radiates onto other people. By not letting certain issues such as money and politics completely affect your entire state of being, you see life in a new way.

Happiness affects your health, relationships and surroundings. You start to see things in a new light. The only way to start being happy is to start being happy. You can't put your happiness into other people's hands because 10 times out of 10, you will end up sad and hurt.

Happiness makes you beautiful; being beautiful does not make you happy.

Always remember, you are in charge of your own happiness, just as every other thing in your life. You make what you want out of this unpredictable, temporary life. Don't spend these days miserable. Happiness makes you beautiful, and who doesn't love to look better and feel better every day?

"I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness." – Drew Barrymore
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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved
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To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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Dear College Kids, Contact Your Legislators

Finding your political voice can seem daunting but it's important to realize that our legislators are just normal people who happen to work for us in government.

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As we come to the end of another legislative session, it's important to reflect on all of the good that has happened but also the things that need work on. After entering college, my political voice and passion have only increased.

I definitely cared about politics in high school but after entering college and finding a group that helped me find a community gave me more courage to speak up about the things that I care about.

There is such power in a community. And that is something that I never realized that I was missing until I had it. I completely understand how daunting it can seem to start getting politically vocal.

Especially if you have unpopular or controversial opinions. As someone who grew up in an extremely conservative region, it took me a long time to feel comfortable and confident standing in my beliefs which largely align with the left. But the only thing that I can tell you is that your minor discomfort and fear is so worth it.

I remember being nervous to display that first planned parenthood pin, not to mention that first nerve-wracking call to a legislator. But I can tell you from first-hand experience that it is not nearly as scary as it appears. It is easy to see our legislators as people standing on pedestals that are so far detached from our reality.

But the reality is that our legislators are normal people. They are mothers, fathers, carpenters, activists, and from a million other walks of life. And it truly helps to change your perspective when you contact your representatives. It helps you to feel more comfortable around them and it helps to prove that our legislators are everyday people.

They are everyday people with power only granted to them by us. Our legislators work directly for their constituents. And so even if your legislators have polar opposite opinions to yours, it is still imperative that we voice our opinions.

How are our legislators supposed to know that their constituents care about reproductive healthcare, comprehensive sex education, LGBTQ+ protections, and so many other issues that directly affect our daily lives?

I cannot stress enough just how important these seemingly small steps of action are. Call your legislator. Email them about an issue you care about. If you have the chance, attend a lobby day about an issue that you feel passionately about.

In our society, it's easy to view people in power as distant and out of reach but we cannot forget that the United States was founded on the rule of the people by the people. So people, call your legislators.

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