This is for all the girls out there who know they can do better but still hang on anyway.
You know you're better than this. You know that waiting around for that text is like waiting for rain in a drought, useless and disappointing. (Yes, I just quoted "A Cinderella Story", sue me).
But you see that's the problem. It's the knowing all too well that he doesn't give a shit about you or your feelings.
It's not anti-feminist to admit that girls are more emotional; it's just science. When you connect with someone beyond the physical attraction and form an emotional and intimate bond, it's hard to rip yourself away. Really hard. This is where the problem lies.That and laziness. It's easy to go back to familiarity. It's fine to want to be comfortable and safe, but when this want overcomes your needs to be happy, there's an issue.
Here's the thing. Boys aren't that complicated. They don't analyze texts for hours, debate with friends over whether they should like your latest selfie, and they sure don't spend hours on their appearance because they'll see you in passing on the way to class.
Boys are either obsessed with you or don't care about you at all. There is no in between.
They're straight forward. When he says he doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't. And you can't spend the rest of your life holding out for the almost's and the could be's. Guys feel this pressure to choose the right one. To choose means to be tied down indefinitely, and they don't want to make the wrong choice. That's why they put you in this limbo; this grey area where you constantly fight about what you are and whether you'll ever be a couple and where you question where you stand with him all the time.
He's holding out. He wants all the perks but not the label. He wants to make the right choice, and if he's questioning where you stand, then don't be with him. Do you really want a guy who doesn't want you back?
This isn't fair to you, to have him say you're just friends, but act like your boyfriend.This is not OK.
There's a problem if you keep telling yourself there's not a problem, but you can't even admit out loud that there isn't.
Quit waiting on him to change. People don't actually change. No matter how hard we try to make someone be someone they're not, people just simply don't change. Yeah they evolve and become better, but just better versions of their original selves.
“What a treacherous thing to believe that a person is more than a person.”
I'm a firm believer that my first love is picked out for me, and I'm not about to spend every Friday and Saturday night looking for him myself.
Someday a guy will choose you. He will chase you. He will whole heartedly pursue you. But you can't be spending every Saturday night looking for him, and you can't spend it trying to make someone love you either.I suggest you channel your inner Meredith Grey, but rather than beg McDreamy to choose you and love you, choose yourself and love yourself, because you don't need a guy out there to do it for you, and you deserve better than that.
