Forgiveness, by definition, “is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense.” In simpler terms, it is a way of letting go so that we are able to move on. It is a very strong, bold and courageous act that is not easy or fun, but we do it for various reasons. One reason we forgive is so we can forget about the issue. The victim doesn’t want to forgive to make things go back to the way they were. They just want to make peace with the pain. There is a tremendous dark cloud over the victim’s head once they feel betrayed, which makes going about their daily routine, i.e. life, difficult. And if forgiving was easy, everyone would do it. If the offense is bad enough, forgiving someone won’t happen overnight. But once it does, the dark cloud gets lifted and the person feels better. They feel relieved, less stressed, and happy again because they aren’t using any energy being angry or upset anymore. They won't think about it anymore. People should forgive for themselves. However, there are different levels of betrayal that can be a factor in when and how people choose to forgive. It is up to them to decide how to handle it. The best and most important effect that comes with forgiveness is that there is no more bitterness, resentment or anger. It is obvious that people feel all sorts of emotions when betrayed, but letting go helps let go of all those negative feelings. The past becomes part of the past and stays there.
Forgiving someone for cheating might seem outrageous to some people. But when you do, won’t you feel better? Forgive them so you can move on with your life. Forgive them so you no longer have to think about it anymore. Forgive them so you can be able to form a new relationship. A relationship that won’t be affected by past ones. Forgiving doesn’t mean that you have to like them again. You just have to forgive to let go of the issue. And that is why you’ll feel better. You use up so much of your energy when you continuously think about it, which doesn’t make you feel good. Stop it. Forgiving them won’t make them feel any better because they didn’t care in the first place. They aren’t thinking about it, they don’t care, they aren’t as affected by it. Why should you have to suffer more than you already have? Forgive for you. Make yourself forget about the offended and the issue completely. It’ll be hard but it’ll be worth it. Don’t believe me? Go try it and find out.
